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31 Dec

Cleopatra’s Secret for Skin Care?

At CoffeyTalk, we’re all about ancient wisdom and modern style.  We’ve discovered many beauty secrets from throughout time and cultures.  Now we’re found something of a gem – and it comes from that land of Egypt.

Stanley Jacobs is a facial plastic surgeon by day and somewhat of an “Egyptologist” in his spare time.  Like an Indiana Jones character, when he came upon the “Edwin Smith Surgical Papyrus” – a document that contains many extraordinary descriptions of medical and surgical techniques dating from 2500 to 3000 B.C., he knew this contained valuable information.  In the back of the text was a chapter about “transforming an old man into a youth.”  In it, a recipe with the key ingredient being “hemayet.”  Maybe this is how Cleopatra kept her youthful glow…

Ah!  The mystery continues, as our hero is on the case!  He travels to Egypt, meets with world-renown experts and scholars, and hemayet is translated to mean “bitter almonds.”  However, these almonds are inedible, and not available in the United States.  Jacobs continues his study to determine that the almonds were used as a part of a topical mixture applied to the skin, and he begins the process of importing the almonds from China.  Enter New York chemist and cosmetic researcher extraordinaire Jules Zecchino, who finds that the real secret in the almonds is their “mandelic acid” – one of the most powerful of the alpha-hydroxy acids, currently used to fight the bacteria that causes acne.

The original recipe for this serum called for frankincense, so Jacobs added that, along with other components that were listed like licorice root, as well as resveratrol, to come up with a beautiful new product that is easily accessible today: “Visco-Elastic Transforming Serum.”

With twice-daily application of the serum over a one-month time period, studies show that there is an average increase in skin elasticity of 50%.  The elasticity of the skin is measured with a German device called a “Cutometer.”

When I first heard of this product, I was intrigued.  Since I don’t want to recommend anything to you that I haven’t first tried myself, I gave it a go.  The serum itself is opaque and creamy.  It smoothes in easily.  I find that it takes 5 pumps to cover the entire face and neck.  After 3 weeks of twice-daily use, I have noticed a difference!  The little crepe-y patch that was starting to form under my eye is now gone.  My skin feels fresh and dewy, and the fine lines are much less noticeable.  I like it!  Normal.dotm 0 0 1 23 133                     1 1 163 12.256

And the best part is that you don’t even have to travel to ancient Egypt to get this little treasure – you just have to go to the amazon – amazon.com that is.

 Visco-Elastic Transforming Serum

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31 Dec

The Releasing Prayer

This is an interesting time of year the week between Christmas and New Year’s.  It seems on the surface that not much is happening. Work is slow, the freeways aren’t as crowded because people are on vacation.  But underneath the surface a lot of activity is taking place.  We’re preparing ourselves for the New Year. We’re taking down the decorations, getting organized, and coming up with our goals and resolutions.  This is a creative time – in Ayurveda this is Vata season.

We see it on a global scale.  We have elected a new president, but he hasn’t taken office yet.  He’s busy planning and preparing, choosing his cabinet, figuring out just how to get things done.  And we see it in nature, too.  Trees shed their leaves in preparation for a new Spring.

In life, we can’t be in two places at the same time.  We can’t keep both feet on the ground and expect to go anywhere.  If we want to take that leap of faith, and really make changes in our lives, then both feet have to leave the ground.  How can we do this?  We need to release.  We need to let go. 

Today I led the service at a church, and instead of the traditional “burning bowl” ceremony, we put the “ancient wisdom, modern style” CoffeyTalk twist on it.  We wrote down what we wanted to release, and then put the papers through a shredder!  This is the prayer I wrote for releasing.  Enjoy, and take it to heart.  I love you!  Happy New Year!

Dear God, Sweet Spirit,

Knowing that all is one and I am one with all that is –
I recognize that certain habits, or thought patterns, or misconceptions
No longer serve me, no longer contribute to my greatest good.
I choose, here and now, to release any and all
judgments, anger, guilt, or self-destructive behaviors.
I choose to let go of pain, and heartache, to let go of resentment and blame.
I choose to unburden myself of any heaviness that is weighing me down.
I choose to leave behind any pettiness of the past.
I choose to relinquish control, to let You,
the guiding light of the Universe, in Your infinite Wisdom,
take care of the details of my life. I choose to open the door, to clear out the clutter, in my life and in my mind and to make room for
All that is offered to me.
I choose to let go completely – and let GOD! I choose, right here and now, to give up the struggle.
I choose, right here and now to release all my fears, all my doubts, any falsehoods that are holding me back from knowing and experiencing and celebrating all that I am. I choose to get with the program, to embrace the
Trust and Faith, and Health, and Light, and Truth, and Opportunity, and Love and Prosperity and Wholeness
That right here and now runs in and around and through each and every one of us.  This is who I am.
And I am truly grateful. I now release and let go of anything that contradicts this fact.  Whatever it is, I let it go.  Happily, with grace and ease, and forever. And so it is, Baby – and so it absolutely is!
Amen!

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31 Dec

A Different Kind of March Madness

If you have, or have had, a senior in high school, you know what I’m talking about.  Every day it’s a mad dash to the mailbox, a little prayer said before it’s opened, and then the tentative sorting through envelopes looking hopefully for that big one, the one that starts with: “Congratulations!”  Brian has made me promise not to open his mail, but he calls me from school every day at 1:30 to see what letters he has received.  A large envelope is a good sign, one that portends acceptance to the university that he applied for. A regular sized envelope contains the letter that starts with: “Unfortunately…” Brian has some good choices already – but we’re still waiting to see the outcome for several others.  Until he has the full picture, he won’t be able to decide just where it is he’ll be going come September.  Schools have promised to get letters to students by April 1, which means our waiting game should be over soon.  And then it’s decision time – and we have until May 1 to declare our intentions. It’s Sunday, and there’s no mail today… so we can breathe a little bit, at least until tomorrow!

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31 Dec

The Today Show!

I feel like I’ve got the routine down now, I’ve been on the Today Show twice already! The show is live in New York, and I’m here in Southern California, so that means a flight across the country the day before in order to arrive on time. I like flying Jet Blue because they have a direct flight from Burbank airport to JFK and then I don’t have to deal with the hassle of LAX. I can drive my car and leave it overnight no problem. And Jet Blue has individual TVs for each seat so I can watch a movie or flip around channels the whole time if I want! It’s 5 hours in the air, so I bring some work, (not that I get much done, especially when I’m stuck in the middle seat!) and a few magazines. I also bring food, because Jet Blue has snacks, but no meals – it’s part of the way they say they keep the price down, although it didn’t seem all that much less expensive to me. Still, I bring my own meals anyway because I’m mostly vegan and airlines don’t get it. My Today Show producer, Jennifer Gentile, works out of their Chicago office. I haven’t met her in person, we just talk on the phone, and e-mail back and forth. She’s very smart and super talented, great to work with! And, like me, she works odd hours so it’s easy to get things accomplished in a hurry, which is what we need to do in TV all the time. Jen found me from this website – isn’t that cool? It’s a lot of time traveling, and a lot of time preparing, for what amounts to about 3 minutes or so of time on the air. But it is all worth it when the segment turns out great! The idea is to get a lot of good information jam-packed into a little amount of time, and make it fun and entertaining, too. Al Roker interviewed me both times and he’s really good about keeping it light. He’s the same great guy in person as he is on the air. I also had a chance to talk with Ann Curry. What a beauty – inside and out! I gave her my “What’s Your Dosha Baby?” book the first time I was there and she took the quiz and told me she’s a Vata. So we have that in common! Ann is currently on the cover of More magazine – a great article about her, and she told me she was really pleased with how it turned out. The Today Show set is outside for the summer while they remodel the new set before Meredith Vieira’s arrival in September. There’s a lot of energy with people all around – and you’d think it would be chaotic, but it’s not! It’s all such a finely tuned machine, everything clicks into place smoothly, everyone does their job and has a good time. I had a great time – and I hope to be back again and again!

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31 Dec

Still Remodeling!

Let’s see, we’re into day… oh, it doesn’t matter now, I lost count! But we’re almost done! We’re still sharing Brian’s shower, but the kitchen is up and running and we have plumbing in our bathroom. We have the TVs all hooked up, although we’re missing one of the remotes. As soon as we get the big bathtub out of the garage I think I can get my car in there! And speaking of the kitchen… I bought all new Kitchenaid appliances – very nice, top of the line. The microwave is fine, the oven is fine (although it won’t broil with the door open which bugs me). But the trash compactor came making a thumping noise. The freezer door is frosting over near the ice maker. And the dishwasher door won’t latch closed. So 3 of the 5 appliance I bought had problems! Kitchenaid sent a repairman. He fixed the trash compactor, but said we have to wait for a new door for the freezer, and we have to order a new latch for the dishwasher. I asked the repairman if he had seen this kind of thing before, and he said that Kitchenaid was always really good, very reputable, until Whirlpool bought them out. Hmmm…. I didn’t know that! I thought Whirlpool was good – didn’t they buy out Maytag? I can’t keep track of all this corporate stuff. Anyhow – my kitchen it getting fixed, and when it is I’ll be happy. But for now I’m frustrated. It’s not like this stuff was cheap. Right now I feel like the tile guys are living with us. They’re pleasant enough – but it would be nice to have the house to ourselves. They’re down to just our shower, and it’s a big job. My cat still hasn’t recovered. Cats are notoriously bad with change, and my cat, having lived in the same house for all of her life and never going far from my bedroom, is quite the prima donna. It’s going to take some time for her to get used to this place. We’ve been here 2 weeks now… I don’t know how long it’s going to take – she’s pretty much just hiding in the laundry room or my closet. And I discovered ebay! Well, I knew all about ebay, but now I have actually gone on there and bought stuff – and it is very cool. I bought some rugs from Persian Village – the prices are amazing! Actually, I have to go check on one of my bids now. More later!

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31 Dec

Freddy’s 18th birthday

November 4. This will always be such an important day in my life. This is the day my first child was born. I remember the day so well. And that day my life changed more than it ever has. Freddy has taught me so much. He was never an “easy” kid. He challenges me at every turn. I have learned more about patience, and acceptance, and unconditional love than I ever thought possible. Being Freddy’s mom has made me grow, and become more of who I am. I remember the days of Ninja Turtles, of Power Rangers, of X-Men. I remember the play-dates, the birthday parties, the favorite socks. There were struggles, and there were triumphs. And I can honestly say that we have never been bored! Now my baby has become an adult. This is his 18th birthday. Though Freddy’s childhood may be coming to an end, my motherhood continues. My role will change, as it should, but I will always be Freddy’s mom. Now instead of action figures, Freddy is collecting college applications. Freddy is making his own “Mac N Cheese” and I’m sending him quarters for his laundry. Freddy is still blazing the trail for all of us in the family. He was the first child, first grandchild, first cousin, and now he’s the first adult of this new generation. We’re all getting used to the idea, because the other kids are following close behind! Share/Bookmark]]>

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31 Dec

WHATEVER YOU THINK OR FEEL, THE UNIVERSE SAYS YES

An Excerpt from Sidewalk Oracles by Robert Moss

Whatever you think or feel, the universe says yes. Perhaps you have noticed this. Yes, we are talking about the law of attraction. It is indeed an ancient law, never a secret to those who live consciously. “All things which are similar and therefore connected, are drawn to each other’s power,” according to the medieval magus Heinrich Cornelius Agrippa von Nettesheim. It is a rule of reality that we attract or repel different things according to the emotions, the attitudes, the feelings, the agendas that we carry.

Before you walk into a room or turn a corner, your attitude is there already. It is engaged in creating the situation you are about to encounter. Whether you are remotely conscious of this or not, you are constantly setting yourself up for what the world is going to give you. If you go about your day filled with doom and gloom, the world will give you plenty of reasons to support that attitude. You’ll start looking like that cartoon character who goes about with a personal black cloud over his head that rains only on his parade. Conversely, if your attitude is bright and open to happy surprises, you may be rewarded by a bright day, even when the sky is leaden overhead, and by surprisingly happy encounters.

Through energetic magnetism, we attract or repel people, events, and even physical circumstances according to the attitudes we embody. This process begins before we speak or act because thoughts and feelings are already actions and our attitudes are out there ahead of us. This requires us to do a regular attitude check, asking, What attitude am I carrying? What am I projecting?

It is not sufficient to do this on a head level. We want to check what we are carrying in our body and our energy field. If you go around carrying a repertoire of doom and gloom, you may not say what’s on your mind, but the universe will hear you and support you. Attitude adjustment requires more than reciting the kind of New Age affirmation you see in cute boxes with flowers and sunsets on Facebook. It requires deeper self-examination and self-mobilization.

What are you doing? A woman in one of my workshops told me she hears this question, put by an inner voice, many times a day. Sometimes it rattles her and saps her confidence. But she is grateful for the inner questioner that provokes her to look at herself. It’s a question worth putting to yourself any day. As you do that, remember that thinking and feeling are also doing.

“The passions of the soul work magic.” I borrowed that from a medieval alchemist also beloved by Jung. It conveys something fundamental about our experience of how things manifest in the world around us. High emotions, high passions generate results. When raw energy is loose, it has effects in the world. It can blow things up or bring them together. There is an art in learning to operate when your passions are riding high and to recognize that is a moment when you can make magic. Even when you are in the throes of what people would call negative emotions — rage, anger, pain, grief, even fear — if you can take the force of such emotions and choose to harness and direct them in a certain creative or healing way, you can work wonders, and you can change the world around you.

How? Because there is no impermeable barrier between mind and matter. Jung and Pauli in concert, the great psychologist and the great physicist, came around to the idea that the old medieval phrase applies: unus mundus, “one world.” Psyche and physis, mind and matter, are one reality. They interweave at every level of the universe. They are not separate. As Pauli wrote, “Mind and body could be interpreted as complementary aspects of the same reality.” I think this is fundamental truth, and it becomes part of fundamental life operation when you wake up to it.

The stronger our emotions, the stronger their effects on our psychic and physical environment. And the effects of our emotions may reach much further than we can initially understand. They can generate a convergence of incidents and energies, for good or bad, in ways that change everything in our lives and can affect the lives of many others.

When we think or feel strongly about another person, we will touch that person and affect his or her mind and body — even across great distances — unless that person has found a way to block that transmission. The great French novelist Honoré de Balzac wrote that “ideas are projected as a direct result of the force by which they are conceived and they strike wherever the brain sends them by a mathematical law comparable to that which directs the firing of shells from their mortars.”

Bring in the creative imagination, and it is wonderful how the world can rearrange itself. I heard a beautiful little story about this from a friend in California. She had been consciously building a kind of inner sanctuary, a place of peace and joy where she could take herself anytime in her imagination. She envisioned a lovely place with healing waters, around an oak tree she knows in the natural world. In imagination, she added a swing to the tree, visualizing the ropes fastened to one of its great limbs. She pictured herself rocking happily under the spreading canopy of the oak. She used this image to help her get through a long and sleepless night when she was severely ill.

A week later, feeling much restored, she took a hike to the place of the oak. And found that someone had added a swing, exactly where she had placed it in her imagination.

Scientific experiments have shown the ability of the human mind and emotions to change physical matter: studies by Masaru Emoto have shown that human emotions can change the nature and composition of water, and the Findhorn experiments have taught us that good thoughts positively affect the growth of plants. Conversely, rage or grief can produce disturbing and sometimes terrifying effects in the physical environment.

“We are magnets in an iron globe,” declared Emerson. If we are upbeat and positive, “we have keys to all doors….The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck.” Conversely, “A low, hopeless spirit puts out the eyes; skepticism is slow suicide. A philosophy which sees only the worst …dispirits us; the sky shuts down before us.”

Whatever our circumstances, we always have the power to choose our attitude, and that this can change everything.

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Excerpted from Sidewalk Oracles: Playing with Signs, Symbols and Synchronicity in Everyday Life ©2015 by Robert Moss. Printed with permission of New World Library. www.newworldlibrary.com

Robert Moss is the author of Sidewalk Oracles and numerous other books about dreaming, shamanism, and imagination. He is a novelist, poet, and independent scholar, and the creator of Active Dreaming, an original synthesis of dreamwork and shamanism. He leads creative and shamanic adventures all over the world and leads popular online courses in Active Dreaming for The Shift Network. His website is www.mossdreams.com

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31 Dec

DGA Film Award Nominees

Official Press Release from the Director’s Guild of America:

Los Angeles – Directors Guild of America President Paris Barclay today announced the dga__121218230019-200x190five nominees for the DGA Award for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Feature Film for 2013.

“To be chosen by your peers in a year full of incredibly well-crafted films is the true marker of outstanding directorial achievement,” said Barclay. “The passion and vision of each of the nominees resulted in tremendously diverse films that kept audiences mesmerized. Congratulations to each of the nominees on a job very well done.”

The winner will be named at the 66th Annual DGA Awards Dinner on Saturday, January 25, 2014 at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza in Los Angeles. The nominees are (in alphabetical order):

ALFONSO CUAR�N
Gravity
(Warner Bros. Pictures)

Mr. Cuar�n’s Directorial Team:
� Unit Production Manager: David Siegel (Arizona Unit)
� First Assistant Directors: Josh Robertson, Stephen Hagen (Arizona Unit)
� Second Assistant Director: Ben Howard

This is Mr. Cuar�n’s first DGA Award nomination.

PAUL GREENGRASS
Captain Phillips
(Columbia Pictures)

Mr. Greengrass’s Directorial Team:
� Unit Production Managers: Todd Lewis, Gregory Goodman
� First Assistant Director: Chris Carreras
� Second Assistant Directors: Nick Shuttleworth, Mark S. Constance

This is Mr. Greengrass’s first DGA Award nomination.

STEVE McQUEEN
12 Years A Slave
(Fox Searchlight Pictures)

Mr. McQueen’s Directorial Team:
� Unit Production Manager: Anthony Katagas
� First Assistant Director: Doug Torres
� Second Assistant Director: James Roque Jr.
� Second Second Assistant Director: Sherman Shelton Jr.
� Additional Second Assistant Director: Nathan Parker

This is Mr. McQueen’s first DGA Award nomination.

DAVID O. RUSSELL
American Hustle
(Columbia Pictures)

Mr. Russell’s Directorial Team:
� Unit Production Managers: Shea Kammer, Mark Kamine
� First Assistant Director: Michele ‘Shelley’ Ziegler
� Second Assistant Director: Xanthus Valan
� Second Second Assistant Director: Jason Fesel
� Location Managers: David Velasco, Guy Efrat (New York Unit)

This is Mr. Russell’s second DGA Award nomination. He was previously nominated in this category for The Fighter in 2010.

MARTIN SCORSESE
The Wolf of Wall Street
(Paramount Pictures)

Mr. Scorsese’s Directorial Team:
� Unit Production Manager: Richard Baratta
� First Assistant Director: Adam Somner
� Second Assistant Director: Francisco Oritz
� Second Second Assistant Director: Jeremy Marks
� Additional Second Assistant Director: Scott Koche
� Location Manager: Nils Widboom

This is Mr. Scorsese’s eleventh DGA Award nomination. He won the DGA Award for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Feature Film in 2006 for The Departed, and has also been nominated in that category for Taxi Driver (1976), Raging Bull (1980), Goodfellas (1990), The Age of Innocence (1993), Gangs of New York (2002), The Aviator (2004) and Hugo (2011). Mr. Scorsese also won the DGA Award in 2010 for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Dramatic Television for Boardwalk Empire and he was nominated for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Documentary for George Harrison: Living in the Material World in 2011. In 1999, Mr. Scorsese was presented with the Filmmaker Award at the inaugural DGA Honors Gala, and he was honored with the DGA Lifetime Achievement Award in 2003.

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The winner in the Feature Film category will be announced at the 66th Annual DGA Awards dinner and ceremony on Saturday evening, January 25, 2014 at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza. The DGA Awards will be hosted by actor Jane Lynch.

DGA nominations for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Television and Commercials will be announced on January 9, 2014. DGA nominations for Outstanding Directorial Achievement in Documentaries will be announced on January 13, 2014. BMW is the Exclusive Automotive Sponsor of the 66th Annual DGA Awards.


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31 Dec

A Time to Mourn

I can’t focus.  I can’t work.  All I can do at the moment is think about the children we lost, the families who are in such pain, the senselessness of the shooting that occurred this morning at an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut.

This could have been any school, any place.  This could have been any of us.  And really, they are us.  We are all connected, and we feel the suffering, we can’t help it.  These children are our children, we feel the loss, we mourn the loss of their presence in the world, and the promise of what might have been.

Every time one of these tragedies occur, and it is devastating that we have any of these tragedies at all, people rally around and express their support of more strict gun control laws.  And yet, time goes by, and nothing more happens.  Until we have another senseless tragedy.  We need change NOW.  I think that President Obama expressed it very well in his response to the country.  It’s not about politics.  It’s about people.  We need to protect each other not with weaponry, but with kindness, with peace, and yes, with laws that look at a victim’s rights, not the perpetrator’s rights. I also feel strongly that we need better access to mental health care.  Many insurance policies don’t recognize mental health as a concern, the coverage is nominal.  But as we see in cases such as this, the consequences are far-reaching.  

We need to talk about these things.  Not just in the moment, but as the days go on, until something is done, until we get the changes in place that we so desperately need.  

So today we mourn.  We take a moment to pause and remember these sweet faces, the loving teachers, parents, and administrators who work with our children daily.  We can not understand the why of this situation.  But we can bring our hearts together and be in it together.  Our strength will lift us up, and take us to a better, brighter, more hopeful place.

My friend Mallika Chopra posted some links to petitions on her blog.  If you feel so compelled, and want to take action, this is one thing that you can do to make some sort of a difference during this difficult time:

http://signon.org/sign/ban-assault-weapons.fb23?source=s.fb&r_by=6380340 https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/immediately-address-issue-gun-control-through-introduction-legislation-congress/2tgcXzQC http://www.thepetitionsite.com/takeaction/546/934/954/?cid=fb_lg_guncontrol
 

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31 Dec

CLOSURE: How to Move Forward Powerfully and Positively

Each of us experiences some kind of loss in this lifetime.  People come and go from our lives, whether by choice or circumstance.  How we cope with these events affects how we move forward, how we see the world, and how we feel about our lives.  I’m not the only person to have been through a divorce.  When my first marriage ended after 17 years, I thought I handled it well.  It was an amicable parting, and we maintained a friendly relationship.  But then a few years later my sister’s husband died unexpectedly.  My grief brought up new emotions, and I felt sad and angry and hurt as I relived the divorce in my mind.  I realized through this experience that although I had moved on, I hadn’t really gotten over it; I didn’t have closure.  I saw the parallels between my sister’s loss and my own, and I actively sought to come up with a formula through which we could both alleviate our pain. Relationships take many forms: marriage, friendships, family, co-workers, classmates, lovers.  Whenever two people have some kind of a connection, a relationship is established.  Our energy goes into these connections, our emotions, our hopes, our human vulnerabilities.  A relationship is an organism itself, and it can have a life cycle.  But since relationship is a spiritual organism, it doesn’t die.  It merely changes shape.  The relationships we build with the people we encounter continue in spirit, in memories, and in lessons learned. We are invested in our relationships with other people.  We spend our time, and emotions, developing a kind of bond with a person.  We give of ourselves, through our love, our friendship, our concern, and our efforts. When we are faced with what seems to be the “end” of a relationship, we may feel loss, grief, anger or pain.  We might even feel relief, or freedom.  We may question the purpose for this change, whether it is abrupt or expected, and the necessity of it.  The change may or may not be our choice, or our desire, but something we must learn to live with.  The uneasiness may nag at us for years as we struggle to understand.  How do we get that “closure” that our hearts and minds so desperately seek so that we can move forward with our lives? We need to shift our perspective a little bit when it comes to relationships.  In our human form, we see the illusion of death, and the ending of relationships.  But what really takes place is a transformation.  As we learn and grow through our relationships, our relationships evolve.  We can use this evolution as an opportunity for continued growth, and for personal transformation.  The pains that we feel are growing pains.  However a relationship changes, whether it is a loss from physical death, a divorce, a move away, a growing up, or a falling out, we can not only survive, but thrive, knowing that everything, always, is exactly the way it is meant to be. A Natural Law works whether we are aware of it or not.  It is a principle of nature that is in effect at all times, without favoritism.  Gravity is a natural law.  It works the same for everyone, at all times.  By being aware of gravity, we can move about more freely, with less risk of pain from falling down. The Law of Relationship is two-fold.  It says:
1) We are all connected.
2) We are here to help each other. We are all connected in one way or another.  We feel the same emotions; we share the same experiences.  We are brothers and sisters on this planet.  This connection bonds us, and gives us a relationship with each other.  A mother in any part the world, can relate to another mother she has never seen because she knows what it means, and how it feels, to be a mother.  We are all born the same way, and have to learn how to walk and talk and find our way in the world.  We face challenges and heartache, no matter where we live, or how we live.  Our connection cannot be broken.  With our challenges and experiences we learn and grow.  Our relationships bring us many challenges and experiences, and through our relationships we learn and grow.  This is how we help each other.  We may not even know that we are doing it, but just by being in a person’s life, in some small way, we are contributing to the learning process, as they are contributing to ours.  Our actions affect other people in ways we can’t even imagine.  Even in times when we feel hurt by someone, that is an opportunity for us to learn and grow.  We might not realize it in the moment, but in some strange and miraculous way, we are helping each other by going through this experience together. Closure is different than grief.  Grieving is looking back; closure is about looking ahead.  We want to let go and move on.  This is what closure gives us.  We may have gone through the grieving process and still not have the closure we seek.  The law of relationship helps us to maneuver our way through the five set process of closure: Recognition, Acceptance, Understanding, Integration, and Gratitude.  When we reach a feeling of gratitude, we know we’ve come full circle to experience closure.  Closure is actually the perfect word for it.  It’s more than neatly tying up loose ends.  Think about life as a series of events and relationships, all linked together in some sort of artistic way, like a beautiful piece of jewelry.  We can’t wear a necklace or a bracelet if the chain is just left dangling.  The jewelry maker finishes off the piece by adding a clasp, one loop that kind of ties together the beginning and the end, the start and the finish, so that what we are left with is one strong continuous chain.  Our closure is that clasp.  Closure helps it all make sense.  It turns something seemingly broken into something useful, purposeful, and lovely.

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