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06 Jun

Factoring “Fun” Into Your Retirement Plan

Many people who imagine their lives in retirement envision themselves on white sandy beaches, traveling the world, or enjoying myriad other fun or leisurely activities and hobbies. Although retirement is often depicted or imagined in this way, the reality is that most people do not factor these expenses and luxuries into their retirement plans, making this prized retirement lifestyle few and far between.

Retirement plans are generally based on a simple income statement analysis – a calculation of income in retirement minus estimated expenses. Often, these calculations are based on a monthly budget, plus an emergency fund for unexpected expenses like medical bills. Most people, however, miss a major component of retirement planning: factoring in fun.

Recent Study Reveals Retirees’ Visions of Retirement

In a recent study conducted by Merrill Lynch and Age Wave, nearly all retirees surveyed agreed that retirement presents them with both greater freedom and opportunities. They also told researchers that retirement is the time of their lives when they have the most fun, reporting peaks between the ages 65 and 74. The retirees surveyed were also 10 times more likely to say retirement is more fun, enjoyable and pleasurable than when they were working.

Despite these optimistic claims and visions about life in retirement, the same survey found that of current retirees, most do not factor in funds for these leisure activities. The survey found that of current retirees, 58% say they do not know how much money they will need to fund leisure activities and 66% have not discussed and agreed with their spouse or partner on how much money to spend on leisure in retirement.

While many leisure activities are certainly low cost, others need to be planned for, such as travel or funding a new hobby in retirement. If you envision travel or picking up a specific activity during retirement, it is essential to plan for these extra funds and discuss how much money should be set aside for fun activities in retirement.

Start Making Your Fun Plan

To start factoring in fun into your retirement plan, the first thing you can do now is to sit down with your spouse and agree on some of the fun things you would like to do in retirement. Many of these things will be low cost or free, such as volunteer work or spending time with family locally, while others activities will need to be budgeted for. These types of activities include learning new hobbies, traveling or taking continuing educational classes. Once you determine which activities you’d like to participate in, you can readjust your income statement analysis with fun factored in, giving you a complete retirement package that will allow you to live out your dream retirement.  

Retirement should be fun. It’s a time that allows for more freedom, time, and perhaps opportunities to pursue lifelong passions, but without the right plan in place, you could be missing out on your dream retirement. It’s never too early or too late to start planning for your life in retirement to ensure you aren’t missing out on your golden years!

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06 Jun
04 Jun

Debugging the Mind

Its hard to find an unhappy baby, whereas its very easy to find unhappy adults. Something specific has to be done to make a baby unhappy. On the other hand, something specific has to be done to make an adult happy. Same thing happens to all of us as we grow from innocence to experience. Something affects the functioning of our mind over time causing all sorts of misery and suffering. Its important to debug these problems in order to lead a life of enduring peace, harmony and bliss.

These fundamental human problems are not new to the modern world. Mankind has been facing them for a very long time and a large number of intellectual and enlightened people have thoroughly analyzed, root-caused and solved these problems over thousands of years. All we need is to pay heed!

As per them, every source of unhappiness, every reason for misery and suffering, every cause of a negative emotion like anger, greed, lust, delusion, arrogance, jealousy, etc. – basically each and every problem in life boils down to five impurities (Kleshas) of the mind. These five impurities exist in every human mind in varying degrees and every affliction originates from one or more of them. They are present since birth and keep increasing as we grow older. That’s why even children are not the epitome of happiness. That entitlement is reserved only for those who are able to get rid of these impurities completely.

These five impurities are:

  • Avidya: Avidya is the ignorance of our true nature – the pure inner Self that is an infinite ocean of peace, harmony, bliss, freedom and knowledge. Its not an intellectual ignorance but an experiential ignorance, which means that only having an intellectual knowledge of our true nature does not remove the ignorance, we have to actually experience it. This ignorance is the root-cause of the other four impurities. Just imagine, if you are able to experience this eternal, pure, blissful Self, all problems of life will evaporate instantly!
  • Asmita: Asmita is egoism that gets developed by identifying our selves as the body and mind since we are ignorant of our true Self. The pure Self can never be bruised but the ego can be easily bruised causing misery. This false “I” soon expands to “my” and “mine” and forms various internal and external attachments like “my prestige”, “my title”, “my money”, “my family”, “my people”, “my house”, “my car”, “my property”, “my religion”, “my country”, etc. These attachments increase the chances of misery even more because when any of them is hurt, the false “I” hurts.
  • Raga: Raga is attraction or liking towards an external entity (person/object/situation) that is a source of pleasure for us. These likings evolve into desires and cravings as we constantly seek happiness from the outside world. And whenever its not fulfilled, we suffer.
  • Dvesa: Dvesa is repulsion or dislike towards an external entity (person/object/situation) that is a source of pain for us. These dislikes evolve into aversions and hatred as we constantly try to avoid things that bring us unhappiness. And whenever we encounter such a thing, we suffer.
  • Abhinivesa: Abhinivesa is clinging to life. Every human being, in fact every living creature, wants to continue to live forever. Even though we are very well aware that the body and mind have to perish one day, we still have a strong inclination to keep living. This results in a fear of death and hence misery from anything that could indicate death.

 

Take any problem in life and try to get to the bottom of it and you will arrive at one or more of these five impurities. E.g. Whenever you are angry, its either because something you want is not happening or something you don’t want is happening. Its all a play of likings, dislikes and egoism. Whenever you are anxious and worried, its because you are thinking too much whether something you want will happen or not or whether something you don’t want will happen. Again, a play of likings, dislikes and attachments. Whenever you feel jealous, its because someone else has something you want. Again, egoism and likings. Whenever you are afraid, its usually because of the fear of losing something you like or losing life itself. Whenever you are in physical pain, its because you are identifying yourself too much with the body. And so every affliction invariably originates from these impurities.

This is known as the philosophy of Kleshas. Most major Indian spiritual texts like Bhagavad Gita, Ashtavakra Gita, etc. as well as teachings of Gautama Buddha talk about it in one form or the other, but its best elaborated in Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras.

These impurities can be removed by a meticulous process of purification involving austerity, self-discipline, self-study, contemplation and meditation. It can also be done through complete self-surrender to the Divinity. Patanjali calls this process Kriya Yoga (not to be mistaken by the Kriya Yoga popularized by Paramahansa Yogananda). This Kriya Yoga is a part of the overarching Raja Yoga.

We can notice results as soon as we start removing these impurities and life becomes increasingly more wonderful as we keep making progress. Along with working on these impurities, if we also keep filling our minds with a purity – love for all – we naturally start developing all the attributes of goodness (Sattvik attributes) listed in an earlier blog post. This process also helps with Self-realization or the experience of the pure inner Self which is the only way to completely annihilate Avidya – the ultimate root-cause of all impurities. And its all under our control as all the changes have to be brought within ourselves. We are not dependent on anyone or anything for it. But remember, its a marathon not a sprint! Happy Debugging!

(This article was cross-posted from happinessjourney.net/post/123120544220/debugging-the-mind)

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03 Jun

Planning For Incapacity and Long-Term Care

6a01b8d0a6271d970c01bb088c7957970d-500piWith people living longer due to advances in medicine and changes in lifestyle, odds are that most of us will become disabled for some time before we die and may need long-term care. Unfortunately, too few plan for an event that is more likely to be a probability than a possibility—and the consequences of not planning can be disastrous for all involved.

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02 Jun

Purpose of Life

Everything we do in life – how we spend each and every moment of our life – has been neatly divided into four categories in the Indian scriptures. These are known as the four Purusarthas (or objects of human pursuit) and include:

  • Kama: Kama encapsulates all forms of pleasures and enjoyments we try to obtain through our six senses i.e. eyes, ears, tongue, nose, skin and mind. This includes nice things to see (like good views, images, etc.), hear (like good music, talks, etc.), taste (like good food, beverages, etc.), smell (like good scents, perfumes, etc.), touch (like good materials, etc.) and think (like good food for thought, memories, fantasies, etc.). All of these fall under the category of Kama.
  • Artha: Artha is all forms of means that we try to acquire to fulfill other aspects of our life. This includes money, status, property, health, security, family, etc.
  • Dharma: Dharma is righteousness – both towards ourselves as well as anything apart from ourselves, like other humans and living beings, society, environment, etc. Anything we believe is “right” based on our value system (morals, ethics, disciplines, etc.) falls under the category of Dharma.
  • Moksha: Moksha is liberation. It is brought about by discovering our true self through self-realization or enlightenment. It answers many deeper questions of life like who am I?, why am I here?, what is this universe?, where did it all come from?, etc. in a process of inquiry into the absolute truth and reality of the whole existence, and leads to ultimate bliss, peace, harmony, freedom and knowledge.

 

A vast majority of people spend a very significant part of their time towards Kama and Artha, a little time towards Dharma and hardly any time towards Moksha. There are exceptions but this is usually the norm. However, the scriptures always lay down the Purusarthas in the following order:

dharma artha kama moksha

First and foremost is Dharma which means everything we do in life should first be righteous before we even proceed further. Out of all activities that pass through the filter of Dharma, some must be performed to acquire Artha or means to sustain life but only to the extent necessary, and the remaining activities should be focused towards Moksha while not getting trapped in Kama.

Its important to note that Kama is a trap that a vast majority of people fall into, which makes them spend most of their free time and resources running after sensory pleasures that prevents them from focusing on Moksha. Some people eventually realize that Kama does not provide the level of satisfaction they inherently seek and they come to learn about Moksha, but most never get to that stage. Even among those who know about Moksha, very few actually focus on it.

There are so many under-privileged who can’t even start thinking any of this due to severe lack of resources and support, making their very existence extremely difficult. And then there are countless other non-human living beings who can’t even think. So one should consider oneself supremely blessed if one can even come close to thinking of Moksha!

Why is Moksha important? For the simple reason that by not being one’s real self one can never be fully satisfied and will always find something missing deep within. Hence its very important to identify one’s absolutely true self and be firmly established in it. History is laden with accounts of people who have successfully attained self-realization in the past and they all have stressed the supreme importance of Moksha. Not focusing on Moksha only results in a discontented life. Only through Moksha can one attain the ultimate level of satisfaction, peace and bliss while leading a life of enduring happiness, and be free from this extremely arduous cycle of life and death that is essentially made of miseries and sufferings.

So please don’t let this opportunity called life pass in vain without even working towards its actual purpose!

(This article was cross-posted from happinessjourney.net/post/127875498570/purpose-of-life)

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02 Jun

Facebook Founders Use Estate Planning Technique for $200 Million Tax-Free Transfer

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Sometimes the planning of the rich and famous helps us better understand what mere mortals can accomplish through proper planning. Such is the case with the recent planning of Facebook co-founders Mark Zuckerberg and Dustin Moskovitz, and CEO Sheryl Sandberg. The footnotes to Facebook’s recent public stock offering reflect that these executives apparently used a tried-and-true estate planning technique known as a Grantor Retained Annuity Trust (GRAT) to transfer upwards of $200 million free of gift and estate tax. read more

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01 Jun
31 May

Foundations of Yoga, and, the Spiritual Life – Part Four

The forth step toward achieving divine union according to Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras is Pranayama.

Pranayama, aka pranayam, in Sanskrit means ‘life force (prana) control (yama).’ Most people familiar with the term believe it refers to yogic breathing exercises and, since life force and breath are intimately related, breath techniques are used to cultivate energy control – but only until it can be governed by mind alone. Paramahansa Yogananda explained that “pranayama is a condition, not a technique.” Its purpose is to establish complete mastery over life force because the only way to unite with God is through such control. That is the true meaning and purpose of pranayama.

What does life energy control have to do with uniting with God? Yogananda said:

God answers all prayers, but restless prayers He answers only a little bit. If you try to give someone something that doesn’t belong to you, your gift won’t mean much to him, will it? However touching the gesture, it will be lacking in substance! So is it when your mind is not your own. You may want to give it to God, but you can’t. Your prayers, then, are hardly more than a gesture. Get control over your mind. When you can pray with concentration, the Lord will know that you mean what you are saying. He will answer you, then, in wonderful ways.

An adept practitioner of a scientific pranayama technique – such as Kriya yoga – learns to control their life force such that it can be withdrawn from the body, sensations, thoughts, memories, desires, and be focused singularly upon centers of higher perception that reveal spiritual realities and, ultimately, lead to divine-union in samadhi meditation.

Yet breathing techniques aren’t the only means to control energy. Thoughts and actions guided by Patanjali’s first two steps, Yama and Niyama (spiritual dos and don’ts), help dictate whether energies are dissipated in worldly distractions or raised toward spiritual realization. That is why his 8 steps are progressively inter-related. Each is distinct but subtly bound to others such that none can be teased apart and made inherently viable without the supportive foundation of the rest. It is an integrated system derived from realizing how soul and consciousness descend from Spirit into bodily manifestation and how, in turn, they can be raised back to Source again. This is the nature of the spiritual path and why the counsel of sages like Patanjali are universal in nature and timeless in scope.

 

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26 May
26 May

Our Mixed Up, Messed Up Relationship with Investment Risk

“What the imagination can’t conjure, reality delivers with a shrug.”

Trumbo (movie voice-over)

 

Whether it’s the recent destruction wrought by Canada’s Fort McMurray oil sands wildfire, a potential June “Brexit” from the European Union, or uncertainty surrounding this year’s US presidential election, there is plenty of risk to go around as we swing into another busy summer.

Is investing riskier than usual these days? In our experience, probably not. If there is such a thing as “normal” in this world of ours, risk is certainly built into the definition. Besides, investors often love and hate risk in a mixed up, messed up relationship. How so? Let us count the ways.

One: We Underestimate Risk.

In investing, underestimating risk can trick you into believing that you can tolerate far more of it than you actually can. As financial columnist Chuck Jaffe has wryly observed: “[A] common mindset is ‘I can accept risks; I just don’t want to lose any money.’”

Unfortunately, we can’t have it both ways. When the risk comes home to roost, if you panic and sell, it’s usually at a substantial loss. If you manage to hold firm despite your doubts, you may be okay in the end, but it might inflict far more emotional distress than is necessary for achieving your financial goals. Who needs that?

Two: We Overestimate Risk.

On the flip side, we also see investors overestimate risk and its sibling, uncertainty. We humans tend to be loss-averse (as first described byNobel Laureate Daniel Kahneman and his colleague Amos Tversky), which means we’ll exaggerate and go well out of our way to avoid financial risk – even when it means sacrificing a greater likelihood for potential reward.

This summer already is destined to deliver plenty of uncertain outcomes. On the political front, there are the especially stark contrasts found among the US presidential candidates. For better or worse, whichever candidate prevails is likely to set the tone for the country if not the world. The “stay or go” uncertainty surrounding the June 23 Brexit vote could also impact financial markets in significant ways. Then there are the usual suspects, such as oil prices, continued Middle Eastern unrest and so on and so forth.

We don’t mean to downplay the real influence world events can have on your personal and financial well-being. But the markets tend to price in the ebbs and flows of unfolding news far more quickly than you can trade on them with consistent profitability. So it’s a problem if you overestimate the lasting impact that this form of risk is expected to have on your individual investments.

Three: We Misunderstand Risk.

Especially when colored by our risk-averse, fight-or-flight instincts, it may seem important to react to current financial challenges by taking some sort of action – and fast.

Instead, once you’ve built a globally diversified, carefully allocated portfolio that reflects your personal goals and risk tolerances, you’re usually best off disregarding both the good and bad news that is unfolding in real time. This makes more sense when you understand the role that investment risks play in helping or hindering your overall investment experience. There are two, broadly different kinds of risks that investors face.

Avoidable Concentrated Risks – Concentrated risks are the kind we’ve been describing so far – the ones that wreak targeted havoc on particular stocks, bonds or sectors. In the science of investing, concentrated risks are considered avoidable. They still happen, but you can dramatically minimize their impact on your investments by diversifying your holdings widely and globally. That way, if some of your holdings are affected by a concentrated risk, you are much better positioned to offset the damage done with other, unaffected holdings.

Unavoidable Market Risks – At their highest level, market risks are those you face by investing in capital markets in any way, shape or form. If you stuff your cash in a safety deposit box, it will still be there the next time you visit it. (Its spending power may be eroded due to inflation, but that’s yet another kind of risk, for discussion on a different day.) Invest in the market and, presto, you’re exposed to market-wide risk that cannot be “diversified away.”

Four: We Mistreat Risk.

It’s a delicate balance – neither overestimating the impact of avoidable, concentrated risks nor underestimating the far-reaching market risks involved. Either miscalculation can cause you to panic and sell out or sit out of the market, thus missing out on its long-term growth.

In contrast, those who stay invested when market risks are on the rise are better positioned to be compensated for their loyalty with higher expected returns.

In many ways, managing your investments is about managing the risks involved. Properly employed, investment risk can be a powerful ally in your quest to build personal wealth. Position it as a foe, and it can become an equally powerful force against you. Friend or foe, don’t be surprised when it routinely challenges your investment resolve.

Respect and manage return-generating market risks. Avoid responding to toxic, concentrated risks. These are the steps toward a healthy relationship with financial risks and rewards.  

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