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20 Oct

Plants vs. pants

 Eating plants is good for the pants!

By Teri Williams

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 The picture shown above is of my favorite belts.  I’ve had it for years.  Notice the two notches added at the top of the belt.  That’s where I was in September of 2015.  And…one year later I’m down to the fourth set of notches.

 I dropped the equivalent of 5 notches!

 When I began eating 100% plant-based my motivations were for my husband and I to rid our bodies of the toxins and blockage from years of eating animal products.  Of course compassion for all beings and helping our planet were also big factors.  I had no idea that, as a result, I would naturally lose weight; somewhere around 30 pounds and five inches. According to some studies I was considered extremely overweight.  I thought I was “just a little curvy” and was quite happy with the way I looked.

In a previous blog I mentioned that is was a difficult transition and that I verged on being depressed.  My mind and body went through withdrawals, my hormones were out of control and I was an emotional wreck.  Most of you that know me would not believe I could be anything but blissful – it happens! I was heading into a deep funk.

What I really thought, what I  was afraid of was that I would be in for a lifelong battle of trying to figure out what to eat and where, that I would always be hungry.  That is simply not my truth. It took creating new habits, or routines, and experimenting with new foods.  I’m an awesome cook, so my fear, like most fear, was unwarranted.  All I needed to do was create space for a new way to cook, a new way to LIVE. To my surprise, I cook almost everything I used to cook, only now I do it without any animal products whatsoever and without oil! My family will testify to the fact that there is no shortage of great food in my house.

A year later as I look at those holes in my belt and think about the fact that I can easily wear my 25 year old daughters clothes, a voice in my head says, “You are one sexy vegan grandma!” (My husband thinks so, too!)

P.S. After the first of the year, my friend, colleague and soul sister, Lisa Powell Graham of the Sexy Vegan Project and I will be sharing some inspiring work for anyone who wants to lean into (or jump all the way in) being vegan.  Until then, for insight and support, visit my contact page and send me a note or find me on Facebook!

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16 Oct

Better Routine Habits Help You Survive!

Why are better routine habits important as you survive a major disaster?  Because our routine habits are destroyed when we go through a major life event.  Nothing is where it is supposed to be. Nothing operates as it does in our daily lives. It can be very disorienting.  As I describe in my book Rainbows Over Ruins, Peter and I found shelter with friends from church.  I slept on a sofa the first night.  After that, we had a spare room that would be our home for 6 weeks while we found a place to rent.  Everyone in the house had to adjust to strangers in their midst.

The animals found their daily routine habits were disrupted too.  We had to find new ways to care for our animals.   Friends stepped in again to house the bird and the cat.  We found a kennel for one of the dogs.  Our vet took another.  And I began daily visitations throughout town.

Instead of the daily routine habit of getting ready to head for work, there were other issues that needed my attention.  I was on the phone continuously looking for solutions to problems.   We worked endlessly, rescuing whatever we could, finding storage space, learning what we needed to do and searching for sources of aid.

Point of the story?  After a catastrophe, routine habits are destroyed. One of our first instincts is to re-establish them as quickly as possible. Routine provides us structure and a sense of normalcy.  It also helps stave off depression.  Simple tasks buffer stress and lessen the impact of a disaster.

ROUTINE HABIT CHECKLIST

Another friend from church, a psychologist, gave me a checklist of things to do every day.  It was a healthy daily routine:

* Get 7-9 hours of sleep daily.

* Eat good meals and treat yourself as an honored guest.

* Get exercise and stay active.

* Breathe deeply and relax.

* Watch or do something funny every day.

* Learn something new.

* Talk to a friend you can confide in.

* Help other people.  It also helps you feel better.

* Start to say thank you for everything.

* Include inner activities as part of your daily routine too.  Surround yourself in beauty, pray or meditate.  These open the door to inner work that will sustain you.

Disrupting your previous routines also gives you an opportunity.  As you rebuild them, don’t just fall back into old habits that no longer serve you.  It is very hard to move forward when you are battling preexisting problems.  This is a good time to create better habits.

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Our routines which are consistent, daily actions become habits.  They kick in what Napoleon Hill called the power of “cosmic habitforce” to increase our belief level that we can heal and rebuild our lives.  Cosmic habitforce depends on outer work in order to access the inner work that triggers the actions that get results.

What is this inner work that gives us the ability to rebuild our lives and uncover new possibilities? We learn to stop dwelling on the negatives, the excuses and the pain that we tell ourselves (and others).   We start telling the story that moves us in a positive direction instead.  This change provides the impetus to carry us forward.

If you’d like more help with surviving a negative life event, please check out my gift to you or listen to my podcast.

If you want to survive well, start building better routine habits right away or as soon as possible.  I know you can do it.

I believe in you,

Susan

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14 Oct

Structured CDs: The Latest Wall Street Scam to Take Your Money

Most people, especially retirees who are accustomed to banking for many years, are well aware of what a certificate of deposit, or CD, is and how it works. While they don’t typically yield high returns, these investment vehicles are some of the safest investments an investor can make. The principal is guaranteed to be returned at the end of the term, and you get paid interest while you wait.

Since the financial crisis, however, CDs and savings accounts aren’t producing the returns that they used to, which has caused them to become less desirable savings vehicles. The current prolonged low interest environment is causing many savers to seek better returns elsewhere, which only compounds the problem because of the higher risk associated with higher returns. Unfortunately, Wall Street has picked up on this trend and has started marketing a new type of CD called a structured CD. This specialized CD provides better returns on the surface, but what is hidden in the fine print might shock you.

Wall Street has decided to take something that is already branded as being safe and sell it with extra bells and whistles that rack up big fees for them (sometimes as high as 3%) while increasing the risk for the investors. A recent Wall Street Journal article noted how one investor, a 79-year-old widow, was horrified to see her $100,000 investment immediately drop to $95,712 after incurring upfront fees. The fees had been disclosed in the 266-page agreement that she signed when investing in the product, but – as many investors would do — she didn’t read all 266 pages of the document. Unfortunately, she blindly trusted the bank that sold her this lump of coal.

The real travesty here is the fact that studies have shown that almost all of these products perform worse than standard CDs. In fact, a study of 118 structured CDs that were issued at least three years ago found that  only one-quarter posted returns better than those of an average five-year conventional CD.  To make matters worse, as of June 2016, roughly one-quarter of them produced no returns at all. At least your standard bank CD doesn’t charge you a fee to open it and most perform better than their fancy structured CD cousins.

So with new products like this popping up every day, how can you protect yourself? Well, here are just a few tips that will help you to not get yourself into an investment trap.

  • Make sure you’re clear on the costs, fees and performance promises tied to any investment product.
  • Always question products that promise high returns accompanied with low risks. These are classic indicators of Wall Street Scams or Ponzi Schemes.
  • Focus on investing according to an investment plan that has been prepared alongside your trusted financial advisor. Having a plan and tracking progress makes you less apt to chase returns in riskier assets.

The world is saturated with these kinds of financial products. Using some standard common sense, sticking to a well-designed investment plan and working with a financial advisor on a regular basis can help you to avoid scams like the one mentioned here. Navigating the financial landscape can be difficult. As a rule of thumb, if something sounds too good to be true, it might just be.

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09 Oct

Survive! First Things First!

No one likes going through personal disasters of any kind.  We don’t feel as if we will survive.  We feel as if we have no control over our world.  We may feel as if we are under an avalanche of problems in all areas of our lives.  We feel powerless.

After coming through our landslide, we could have chosen to live as victims of fate, bemoaning our circumstances and living in constant fear, however, we consciously chose to follow a different path and that has made all the difference.   Along the way, I acquired a few tips to help us survive, live better lives and experience more joy and well-being every day.

First, realize that you are not powerless because you have one significant power – the power of your mind.  You are used to using the conscious part where thoughts flow continually.  But are you overlooking your non-conscious aspect of mind that provides access to resources and solutions in ways you might never have considered?   As you learn about both aspects of mind, you will find it helpful to overcome negative life events and experience joy, well-being and inner peace once again.

Start right where you are:  Keep the main thing the main thing.

Immediately after a disaster, we have to survive.  We have to focus on physical safety and taking care of ourselves.  Are we okay?  Any life threatening situations.  Is anyone in immediate danger?  Get them to safety.  Is there a medical emergency?  Check the ABCs of medical care – air (breathing), bleeding and consciousness.  Take care of what you can and call for help.  911, friends, family, your faith institution, and your community – all become a lifeline to survival.  And it’s a good time to pray.  Not only does prayer helps to sustain you, it also opens a link to the non-conscious mind that is a source of inspiration, resources and solutions that you will need.

The next few weeks are going to be a period of healing on all levels.  Surviving takes time.  When we went through this, it took 6 weeks just to find some stability.  Our little family complete with animals had to find immediate housing.  We had to rescue what we could to carry us forward and find a place to store it.  I walk you through this in more detail starting at page 15 of “Rainbows Over Ruins.”

The financial and legal aspects took 18 months to resolve and could have taken longer.  During that time, we were advised to find a house to rent and go on with our lives.  We were emotionally distressed.  The time spent moving our belongings led to injuries and medical care.  Forget about dreaming.  We had to face each next step in that process and deal with it on a daily basis.

Slowly, once we knew we would survive the worst, even the elements of disaster took on a sort of normalcy and began to open up new possibilities.  That’s when we began to dream forward again toward what we wanted for a permanent home.  We’d take Sunday drives to look for a place that would serve us even better than our previous home.  Starting on page 25 of “Rainbows Over Ruins,” I take you through the process that led to the ranch we call home today.

Over time, step by step, you will find the path to rebuild and may even make choices to create a new version of You.  We are changed by trauma and it takes time to discover exactly how that will seek expression.  Although you may not see it now, once you have healed, you may find this to be a very special time in which new opportunities are revealed and you gain access to your personal dreams in a new way.

To recap:

Give yourself permission to heal.  Allow yourself to mourn what has been lost. Trauma reaches into the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual dimensions of our lives.

Get back to basics.  Breathe deeply.

Survive. Deal with the emergencies.

Focus on the next presented things as they are revealed.  First, we stabilize as we begin to restore our lives.

Be open to changes that begin to seek expression.  Keep notes.  Allow yourself to be blessed by disaster.

If you would like to read more tips, the full Survivor’s Guide is available at www.GiftFromSusan.com.

Remember, you have to do it on your own, but you do not have to do it alone.  Please let me know if I can help you!  I believe in you.

To Your Success,

Susan

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28 Sep

Documents Needed in Estate Planning

Stack of DocumentsA well-planned estate is a wonderful legacy you can leave your heirs — instead of untangling a messy estate, they can follow concrete steps, allowing them to take care of business while mourning their loved one. You should consult with and hire a qualified estate attorney to help you through the process, estate settlement requires a lot of work from the executor, so be prepared! read more

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27 Sep

Ways to Recover a Lost 401(k)

Most of us check our bank accounts regularly, are diligent in the daily management of our checking accounts to make sure that no money is missing and that we can pay our bills each month. It would be unusual for someone to forget that they had a checking account out there that hadn’t already been rolled into their new checking account; however, sadly, it is all too common for people to lose track of an old retirement account.  

It is estimated that today’s millennials are job-hopping every 3 years on average. With so many moving parts that come into play when jumping from job to job, it can be surprisingly easy to forget to rollover a 401(k) or other retirement savings plan. Millennials aren’t the only ones who lose track of their retirement savings. More and more soon-to-be retirees also can’t recall where they stashed their money years ago. This presents a serious problem, as forgotten retirement savings can be subject to high fees or inflation or even become seized by the state if they are abandoned for too long.

What Happens When Your Plan is Forgotten?

Terry Dunne, of Millennium Trust Co., which handles 401(k)-to-IRA rollovers, estimates that more than 900,000 workers lose track of 401(k)-style, defined-contribution plans each year, illustrating that this is a far too common occurrence.

When the companies that administer your retirement plan can’t find you and are not successful in getting in touch with you, all of your invested money gets put into cash, which can then get eroded by fees and inflation. Worse, this causes investors to lose out on the opportunity for possible long-term gains in the market while the investor doesn’t even realize they have lost money out there to be invested.

Do Employers Really Want to Find You?

There is virtually no incentive for financial companies holding 401(k) accounts or pensions to find you. While your money is sitting there, they can collect fees. If they alert you to the issue, you may move your money elsewhere.

Tom Reeder of the U.S. Pension Benefit Guaranty Corp. (PBGC) said employers often just “go through the motions” of finding beneficiaries. When so-called missing accounts are transferred to the PBGC, the agency can often find those participants immediately with modern search tools.

“All employers are not as eager to find these people as they should be,” he said.

The U.S. Department of Labor seems to agree. In January it said it was expanding an investigation of large pension plans failing to locate participants.

What Can You Do to Locate an Old Plan?

While it is essential to be diligent in managing and moving money into current plans, these things happen. And when they do, here’s what you can do about it:

Unfortunately, there is no central, comprehensive repository where you can locate lost 401(k)s or pensions, but there are a few places where you can start:

  • Contact Former Employers: The best place to start locating an old retirement plan is to contact your old employers and see if you ever participated in a 401(k) plan and, if so, how you can gain access to it.
  • Contact the Plan Administrator: Sometimes former employers cannot be found, whether due to a business closure, merger or relocation. If this is the case, and you still have an old 401(k) plan statement, see if you can locate the contact information for the firm that administered your plan. If you don’t have an old statement lying around, try to locate the Form 5500 – which most plans require participants to complete — on www.freeERISA.com. This form will reveal the contact information of your plan administrator as well.  
  • Search Online: Congress may be in the works to create a “retirement seek-and-find”, a complete searchable database of abandoned retirement accounts. In the meantime, the U.S. Department of Labor offers an Abandoned Plan Database, which shows if your plan is in the process of being terminated, as well as the name of the Qualified Terminator, who you can contact about your account. There is also a National Registry where some employers list missing participants as well.
  • Visit a Pension Counseling Center: More than 30 states offer free counseling resources that help individuals reclaim retirement benefits they have earned.  To find a free counseling resource near you, visit www.pensionrights.org/find-help.

Roll Old Plans into Current Ones

One of the easiest ways to avoid losing track of your retirements accounts is to simply roll them into the plan with your new employer. It may also be beneficial to open a traditional IRA and transfer your 401(k) money there to keep track of it in one place, which also opens up the amount of investment options you will have. Before taking either step you should evaluate the fees and investment options of each.

If you’re dealing with a pension, make sure you keep a record of how to claim that pension when you leave the company and store in a safe place for future reference. This will increase the odds of not forgetting about a pension that you have and also cut down on delays in receiving your first pension payment.

Keeping track of your retirement plans isn’t hard and should be done with as much diligence as your checking accounts. Don’t become one of the 900,000 people who don’t know they have money sitting out there somewhere waiting for them to claim.

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26 Sep

Meditation is a Spiritual Practice

As a longtime yogi, meditation teacher, and student of the mystical, I’ve observed the various points through which hatha yoga and meditation have entered the US psyche. Not intending to be historically immaculate, I simplify timeline details using broad brush strokes. The process I reference was most significantly launched by Emerson’s Transcendentalism, the Theosophical Movement, and the eventual arrival of Swami Vivekananda in the late 1800’s. After teaching in America for several years, Vivekananda returned to India but his visit was subsequently followed by that of Swami Yogananda in 1920 (later re-titled Paramhansa Yogananda). Yogananda made the US his base of operations and taught until leaving the body in 1952. Following his death, a host of other Indian gurus visited, taught, and helped fashion the yogic meditation culture. Enter Buddhist traditions through Alan Watts and Shunryū Suzuki who introduced Zen to the West. Then, in 1979, Jon Kabat-Zinn adapted ancient Buddhist Vipassana and hatha yogic practices to create a Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program. His standardized, 8-week course couched meditation practices in Western, scientific terms using a definition of mindfulness as “the awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, and non-judgmentally, to the unfolding of experience moment to moment.” This non-theistic concept became readily accessible to, and absorbed by, a religiously skittish western audience who sought something esoteric yet ‘safe.’ And, it garnered ever-increasing popularity after Bill Moyers TV series, “Healing & the Mind,” showcased Kabat-Zinn’s work. According to Medical News Today, Mindfulness is currently the most common form of meditation in the Western world.

This is a truly significant statement and, for me, a simultaneously disheartening one. Not that I mind folks trying their hand at meditation. I laud them wholeheartedly. Rather, I object from the standpoint of being a purist. Meditation has traditionally been used in spiritual frameworks to deepen realization of our essential nature, its relationship with Source or Spirit, and the meaning of life itself. Instead of pursuing such goals, modern versions of Mindfulness effectively strip-mine enlightenment traditions to foster relaxation, reduce stress, improve health, and enhance job performance. This is not what any spiritual master sought, taught, or counseled.

Noting sensations and thoughts as secretions of the mind, arising and passing like clouds across a vast sky is noteworthy, even therapeutic, but meditation is far more than this. It redirects energy and consciousness purposefully, shifting awareness from external sensory perceptions to realms of ever-expanding subtle reality. As this inner process unfolds, the limited identification of self with body and mind is replaced by perceptions of unified oneness with All-That-Is. That state of realization; Oneness, Returning to the Source, Reunion with Spirit, is the true purpose of classical meditative endeavors. Thus, I encourage all meditation practitioners to take a deeper look at what you’re doing and why. If seeking awakened connection with Source, you are on the right path. If merely pursuing less painful means of engaging the world, you are bypassing bigger realities and selling yourself short. When all is said and done, Spirit is the ultimate goal of life because It is existence, joy, love, consciousness, fulfillment Itself. Until we return Home, i.e. reunite with the Sacred, we remain stranded in a world of delusive separation and malcontent. No amount of mindful awareness or being present in the moment can change that fact, only union with Source can. So, make meditation a spiritual practice; that’s what it is for and why that emphasis will serve you better.

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26 Sep

Silly Questions? Not When It Comes to Your Will

6a01b8d0a6271d970c01bb0870d148970d-500piIt’s something parents shudder to think about: a will. That’s probably why more than half of Americans with children do not have a legal will. Parents love their children, and the concept of dying and not being there for their children is simply not an option they consider. Establishing a will is a vital part of protecting your financial legacy and there is no benefit in delaying it. read more

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23 Sep

Alternatives to a Reverse Mortgage

Woman Looking to SideIf you’re 62 or older, you may be able to convert the equity in your home into cash with a reverse mortgage. This loan lets you borrow against the equity in your home to get a fixed monthly payment or line of credit. Repayment is deferred until you move out, sell the home, become delinquent on property taxes and/or insurance, the home falls into disrepair, or you pass away. read more

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21 Sep

Why Do You Need a Will?

draft_lens6229982module49470302photo_1249598396business-manThis article gives the example of a businessman who had named his son as the nominee in all his investments. Since the son was managing all the father’s investments, it was convenient. But since the businessman passed away without making a will, now his daughter is finding it difficult to prove that she, too, has a right over her father’s investments. In fact, in the case of the father’s equity investments, the daughter may not get anything. The daughter has to get a judge involved, which is cumbersome and can get sticky. read more

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