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31 Dec

Family Down Under

Yesterday I received a sad phone call.  My husband’s mother lives in Australia, and the nurse in her community phoned us to let us know that she passed away. She was just 75 years old.  I knew her just 6 years, and I loved her very much. Judith was about 4 foot 6 or so, but larger than life.  With her flaming red hair and her perfect enunciation, she was a grande dame!  She sang opera, loved the arts, music, worked as a designer when she was young, and lived a very cultured life, even when her home was in rural Australia.  She surrounded herself with beauty – she was an expert gardener, and her blooms grew large and proud all around her place, boasting of their color and strength for all the neighbors to envy.  In her backyard she grew herbs and vegetables for her own salads.  She was very environmentally conscious, and she composted, and steadfastly preserved water. Even in the garden, Judith was always dressed and accessorized like a perfect lady.  She loved her jewelry, and designed many of her own pieces.  She particularly prized her emeralds, as green was her absolute favorite color. She wore them all the time.  As her arthritis got worse, it was more a matter of convenience not to unlatch the clasps. Judith was the one who kept track of the family tree.  She knew the associations and distant relatives on every branch.  She had an amazing memory, and she loved to share stories.  She had traveled extensively, and had a keen vision for politics to go along with her big heart. There was a lot of pain in Judith’s life.  She lost her daughter, Angeline, when Angeline was still a teenager.  She lost her husband, and cared for her mother until her death.  She loved her family, and gave her blessings to her son, my husband, when he moved halfway across the world to marry me.  Now my husband, and his sister, and the 6 grandchildren Judith left behind, and all of her dear friends, will remember Judith as the great lady that she was.  I will miss her.

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31 Dec

Back from Australia

If Australia weren’t so far away I’d go there all the time.  It’s such a beautiful country, and the people are so warm and welcoming.  It’s just an arduous journey, 15 -16 hours getting there and about 13 coming back with a good wind.  Qantas has upgraded their entertainment system since the last time we flew – now they have movies on demand which is great.  But where I used to be able to stretch out with an empty seat beside me most flights, now we’re jammed in, not an empty seat in sight. My other gripes, the food, well… sucks.  No other word for it.  My hubby took a chance and ordered the vegan meal, but that was just weird, he ended up getting spinach for breakfast.  And all the airport hassle with the new security rules continues.  Going there from LAX we could buy a bottle of water once we got past security and keep it with us on the plane – but in Sydney they put a second security post right before the boarding area so we couldn’t take our own water and had to keep asking for some. But all that is besides the point.  We got there – and in one week we were able to close up my mother-in-law’s house.  It was me and Greg, and his sister Felicity and her son Jesper.  We all worked flat out, boxing, packing, sorting, shipping, and getting everything where it was to go. Amidst all of this activity Felicity planned a beautiful service, and Greg wrote a fitting tribute for his mum.  Felicity put together a beautiful program book, the photo on the cover was one of mum at our wedding, wearing one of her trademark hats, and the “Parti Sapphire” ring that she left me.  I wore a pair of her pearl earrings to the service, and in my talk I spoke about the qualities that mum had that I see now in her children and grandchildren. When we got back I had the instinct to go to the phone and call mum to tell her everything that happened.  She would had chuckled, and been so pleased with how the family came together.  I am going to miss our conversations.

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31 Dec

Fun IQ Game

When you go to the site, the directions are written in Japanese, but I’ll translate for you 🙂 Apparently this is an IQ test given to job applicants in Japan: “Everybody has to cross the river”.
The following rules apply: 1) Only 2 persons on the raft at a time. 2) The father can not stay with any of the daughters without their mother’s presence. 3) The mother can not stay with any of the sons without their father’s presence. 4) The thief (striped shirt) can not stay with any family member if the Policeman is not there. 5) Only the Father, the Mother and the Policeman know how to operate the raft. 6) To start click on the big blue circle on the right. 7) To move the people click on them. To move the raft click on the pole on the opposite side of the river.
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31 Dec

A Different Kind of March Madness

If you have, or have had, a senior in high school, you know what I’m talking about.  Every day it’s a mad dash to the mailbox, a little prayer said before it’s opened, and then the tentative sorting through envelopes looking hopefully for that big one, the one that starts with: “Congratulations!”  Brian has made me promise not to open his mail, but he calls me from school every day at 1:30 to see what letters he has received.  A large envelope is a good sign, one that portends acceptance to the university that he applied for. A regular sized envelope contains the letter that starts with: “Unfortunately…” Brian has some good choices already – but we’re still waiting to see the outcome for several others.  Until he has the full picture, he won’t be able to decide just where it is he’ll be going come September.  Schools have promised to get letters to students by April 1, which means our waiting game should be over soon.  And then it’s decision time – and we have until May 1 to declare our intentions. It’s Sunday, and there’s no mail today… so we can breathe a little bit, at least until tomorrow!

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31 Dec

Happy Easter, Happy Spring

Baby bunnies, baby birds, baby squirrels, all the little signs of spring are turning up right in our backyard.  I love Easter!  Even as a little girl I knew there was something special about this holiday, and this time of year.  I remember one year I was “Rabbit” in our elementary school production of Winnie-the-Pooh.  My grandmother made me a costume out of an old white tablecloth – it was so cute… and then I’d wear that costume every Easter, and hide eggs for the littler kids next door. For years I’ve done the annual family Easter Brunch at our house.  I started this tradition before Freddy was born.  And then when he came along, the day took on more meaning as an egg hunt was included in the festivities.  It seemed like each year there was another cousin added to the mix – each year there were more kids, and more eggs!  I have such happy memories of a backyard full of little kids scrambling for plastic eggs, baskets in hand, squealing with delight at each new discovery.  There was the year that it was particularly hot, and the chocolate eggs melted inside the plastic ones.  After that I filled the eggs with pennies, or jelly beans.  Then there was the year our new puppy found more eggs than the kids did.  When the kids started getting too big for egg hunts, I even stretched it out by inviting my friend to come and bring her little boys! This year, all of the kids are teenagers.  They’d rather receive gas cards than chocolate eggs.  But I’m still having Easter Brunch.  We’ll eat strawberries and waffles, and just enjoy having the kids all together in one place for awhile.  There have been so many changes over the years as they’ve grown.  And Easter keeps coming around, a marker of how some things stay the same.

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31 Dec

Jamaica!

My best birthday present ever… so far?  This year Greg took me on a trip to Jamaica!  What a blast!  We flew Air Jamaica direct from Los Angeles to Montego Bay, overnight in about 5 1/2 hours.  The flight was really light so we were able to spread out in a whole row and sleep.  We took a shuttle from Montego Bay to Negril, where we stayed at “Couples Swept Away,” an all-inclusive resort.  All-inclusive really is that – you pay one fee before you get there and that covers everything – all your meals, drinks, tips, activities – it’s wonderful!  And it’s all you can eat, all you can drink, too, they’re not stingy in Jamaica! At our resort the food was really good, and they had a nice selection of vegetarian items, which is important to me and Greg as we are both vegan.  They even have one restaurant that serves only vegetarian food – and the menu changes every other day so you can’t get bored.  There are two “fancy” restaurants where you need reservations, and another restaurant where you order off the menu, and a more casual restaurant that is buffet style for breakfast, lunch and dinner.  We ended up going there most of the time because it was convenient, and we always found food we enjoyed.  Plus at breakfast they had soy milk for us, which ws a huge bonus. We were there in late April, just after the expensive season – rates go down after April 15 when the rainy season starts.  It’s not that bad, though – basically it’s sunny and warm and beautiful up until about 2 pm, then it clouds up, and rains – sometimes for a little while, sometimes for a couple of hours.  Then the evening is beautiful again.  We got caught in it twice.  Once we had scheduled our catamaran tour with the resort at 4 pm and it was just raining buckets… I told Greg they’d probably cancel, but he insisted we walk out to see what was going on.  By the time we got from our room to the water sport shack, I was SOAKED!  I asked the girl if the cruise was cancelled because of the rain and she said: “It’s not raining!  It’s liquid sunshine!”  The cruise was on, but I wouldn’t go.  Not my idea of a fun time to be stuck on a big boat with no roof on a choppy ocean.  Instead we went back to the room and watched the World Cup Cricket finals, which I thought was much more interesting!  Australia won, and my Aussie husband explained to me the rules and how to play.  The second time we got caught in the rain we had booked an eco-tour at a place about 20 minutes from the resort.  The weather looked good as we left, and just before we got there it started to come down – hard!  The guide lent us ponchos, and we took the self-tour of the rain forest, didn’t see many birds, but got a good feel for what a rain forest is all about! The Jamaicans have a great attitude about the weather.  When we said “too bad it’s raining” we were told no, it’s good that it’s raining, we need to appreciate what nature gives us every day.  It’s all good. It took us awhile to get on Jamaican time – Jamaican time is a little like Hawaiian time, few people wear watches, one minute might be four, you eat when you’re hungry and drink pretty much any time of day.  We went to Margaritaville one night where they boast of their 52 flavors of margaritas – they say 51 are great, but that 52nd will get you every time!  I tested out the “guava” variety and it was sweet, but at $9. a drink we were happier with the ones at Swept Away!  The place is lively – and I could tell that it would get more wild as the night went on.  Greg and I reached our level of wild acceptability around 7 pm and headed back to the hotel for our free dinner! Couples Swept Away is appropriately named.  There are all couples there.  No swingers, no kids.  Lots of weddings!  We probably saw 3 weddings a day while we were there.  Beautiful setting for it – and I guess destination weddings are as popular as everyone says they are!  Right next door is the Sandals Beaches Resort – that’s where you want to go if you bring your kids.  Very family friendly – lots of stuff for kids to do.  I was glad I chose Couples for our romantic getaway! My favorite day was when we chartered a glass bottom boat to take us on a little mini tour.  Our guide, Leroy, was very cool – he gave us a little history lesson about Jamaica – and he drove us by the “Nude Beach” and the “Prude Beach” at another resort called “Hedonism!”  We also breezed right by the “Nude Cruise” – and I hope those people were wearing sunscreen!  Greg got to snorkel a little, and we fed schools of fish.  The water is so clear there that you can see straight down to the bottom.  Greg learned to sail, and he took me out on a Hobie Cat one afternoon – it was so much fun!  We also went out on one of those pedal boats – a lot of work to not go very far – but there was only one electric boat and that one was checked out all the time. Another day we got our cab driver to take us into town to go shopping.  I found these amazing gemstones called “Caribbean Topaz” – I couldn’t resist – I bought a ring and the matching earrings – actually, Greg got them for me and I told them it was my mother’s day present. 🙂  The color is incredible, it’s got varying shades of blue and purple, even green, with touches of pink depending on where the light hits it.  The stones I got are oval and cushion cut, really beautiful.  After shopping we got dropped off at the famous “Rick’s Cafe” where they have cliff diving – and fancy drinks, of course!  We had dinner and watched the sunset.  Ah, paradise! Staying at the resort is a little like being on a cruise ship.  There are all kinds of activities, which you participate in only if you want to.  We went to a margarita mixer lesson, saw a fashion show put on by guests and staff, and went to a talent show one night.  And one night the place through an awesome beach party with a ship-wreck theme – dinner served outdoors on the sand, a live reggae band, entertainment in the form of a contortionist and a fire eater – what a kick! Most of the time I was content to just sit on the beach and enjoy the view.  I couldn’t bring myself to read or write, I just wanted to be.  We tried to use the internet one day to check on e-mail but the wireless wasn’t working and the internet cafe they have there was way too slow, slower than dial-up, so we gave up.  I think that was a blessing!  It felt really good to be unplugged for awhile! My suntan is starting to fade, but the memories of this vibrant island vacation will stay with me.
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31 Dec

Soda Pet Peeve

On a Southwest Airlines flight from Sacramento to Burbank, we’re offered a drink shortly after we take off.  I’m sitting in the back, in my usual aisle seat, because when we land in Burbank they’ll open the back door as well as the front door and I can get out faster.  I usually pass on the drink and sip on the bottle of water I bring with me.  As we’re in close quarters, I can’t help but hear what all the people around me are ordering. Across the aisle from me are a mom and her two little girls – probably around 6 and 8 years old.  What do the girls order?  Diet Coke!  As a mother myself, I am appalled.  This is wrong on so many levels.  And yet, the mother of these two little girls thinks nothing of it.  Has she not read any newspaper article or magazine?  Caffeine, artificial sweetener, sodium, all kinds of chemicals and preservaties – there is NOTHING that is of any value to the body in these sodas.  The worst part of this whole scenario is that the soda is basically addictive, so these girls are starting in on a very bad habit at a very young age. What is it going to take to get parents to understand that they have to help their children to make good choices for themselves in every aspect of their lives – including the food and drink that they put into their bodies?  Maybe we should put an age limit on sodas the way we do on cigarettes.  I don’t know what the solution is, but with the problems with juvenile onset diabetes and youth obesity running rampant in the United States, we have to do something, because evidently parents just aren’t doing enough. Share/Bookmark]]>

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31 Dec

Creative and Crafty

My sister is planning her wedding, and of course, as matron of honor and the only lifestyle designer in the family, I’m into it big time!  I came across this site that blows me away.  There are some wonderfully creative and crafty women out there… maybe with a little too much time on their hands?  The site sponsored a toilet paper wedding gown contest – and you wouldn’t believe the winners – they’re all worthy of being in the pages of a magazine!  Check it out… and remember, they’re all made out of TOILET PAPER!!!
http://www.cheap-chic-weddings.com/wedding-contest-2006.html

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31 Dec

Hacked!

You might notice a big “hole” in our blog entries.  All of the blogs from July 07 to right now are gone.  There are also hundreds of “Letters to Lissa” missing off the site.  What happened?  We were hacked!

A hacker is a vandal, basically like a burglar, who figures out how to break into websites and goes in and wreaks havoc with the code destroying files and in turn, content.  This website was recently the victim of a hacker.  Fortunately, we had a back-up system in place, so we were able to save a lot of our files.  But no system is 100% and we lost a ton of information.  We lost all of our surveys, and our news entries – it’s really sad.  A lot of work.  A lot of time.  A lot of energy.  Just destroyed for no apparent reason.

Some of the entries we’ll never be able to get back.  It’s just pieces of history lost forever.  It might not mean anything to some people, but it means a lot to me.  It’s devastating.  It’s a violation.

So, if any of you happened to have saved any blog entries from 7-07 to present, please send them to me so I can re-post.  Thanks!

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31 Dec

Plastic Bag Ban?

San Francisco has banned plastic shopping bags.  Same with Oakland, and Malibu.  And Los Angeles just may be next.  There’s a bill in front of California State legislators to tax plastic bags at a rate of 25 cents each.  If that doesn’t go through, the LA City Council says they’ll put a ban in place.  I’ve written to the mayor and city council members of my city (we’re in the county of Los Angeles, but Westlake Village is its own city) to express my support for a ban.  Our mayor e-mailed me back to say that it’s something they’re seriously considering.  Halleluah!  Of course, I would love it if people would see the problem for themselves and voluntarily switch over to reusable cloth bags.  But I don’t see that happening any time soon.  Every time I go to the market I am faced with cart after cart of plastic bags leaving the store.  And the worst offenders are those who say “paper IN plastic” – they get their groceries in a paper bag and then put the paper bag in a plastic bag so they have the handles.  Puh-leeeeeze!  If you’re not convinced, here are some stats I garnered online:

Data released by the United States Environmental Protection Agency shows that somewhere between 500 billion and one trillion plastic bags are consumed worldwide each year. Fewer than 1% of bags are recycled.  It costs more to recycle an old bag than to produce a new one. There�s harsh economics behind plastic bag recycling: �It costs $4000 to process and recycle 1 ton of plastic bags, which can then be sold on the commodities market for $32.�
-Jared Blumenfeld,
Director, San Francisco Department of the Environment It costs California taxpayers about $25 million a year to collect and dispose of plastic bags, according to Californians Against Waste. Where do old plastic bags go?  A study in 1975 showed oceangoing vessels dumped 8 million pounds of plastic annually.  The real reason the world�s landfills weren�t overflowing with plastic was because most of it ended up in an ocean-fill.
-U.S. National Academy of Sciences Bags get blown around to different parts of our lands, seas, lakes and rivers.  Bags find their way into the ocean via drains and sewage pipes.
-CNN.com Plastic bags have been found floating north of the Arctic Circle and as far south as the Falkland Islands.
-British Antarctic Survey Plastic bags account for over 10 percent of the debris washed up on the U.S. coastline.
-National Marine Debris Monitoring Program Plastic bags photodegrade: over time they break down into smaller, more toxic petro-polymers which contaminate soils and waterways.  As a consequence, microscopic particles can enter the food chain.
-CNN.com The effect of all this is catastrophic.  Birds become terminally entangled.  Nearly 200 different species of sea life, including whales, dolphins, seals and turtles die due to plastic bags.  They die after ingesting plastic bags which they mistake for food.
-World Wildlife Fund Report Canvas bags are a good solution to this problem. When we use a canvas bag we can save 6 bags a week, or 24 bags a month.  That�s 288 bags a year � EACH!  In a lifetime, that�s an average of 22,176 bags. If just 1 out of 5 people in the United States switched to canvas bags, we would save 1,330,560,000,000 plastic bags over our lifetime. -Plastic bags are banned in Bangladesh and in Rwanda. 
-Free plastic bags are banned in China. 
-Ireland taxes plastic bag use and has reduced their consumption by 90%.
-Australia, Israel, Canada, India, Botswana, Kenya, Tanzania, South Africa, Taiwan, and Singapore have also banner or are moving toward banning plastic bags.
-PlanetSave.com On March 27, 2007, San Francisco became the first U.S. city to ban plastic bags. Oakland has also banned them.  Malibu just banned them, and many other cities are following suit.
-NPR.org Plastic shopping bags are made from polyethylene: a thermoplastic made from oil.  Reducing plastic bags will decrease foreign oil dependency.  China will save 37 million barrels of oil each year due to their ban of free plastic bags.
-CNN.com
 

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