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14 Jan

The SLEEP Diet – Part 1

The most popular New Year’s Resolution always seems to be to “go on a diet.” Most of the time when we think of a diet, we think of the foods we might eat, or not eat, that will help us to lose weight. But there are all kinds of diets. A diet is made up of the food we consume, and we can go on a particular diet for many reasons. The best reason to go on a diet is to improve our health. And what better way is there to improve our health than to improve our sleep?

Research shows that a good night’s sleep, both in quantity and quality, helps to boost our memory, curb inflammation, sharpen attention, enhance athletic performance and even help us to live longer. There are many things that we can do to achieve the goal of sleeping well. A regular bedtime and waking time, a quality mattress, and a restful sleep environment are all very important. In addition, the foods we eat also influence our sleep. The Better Sleep Council has come up with a list of foods to stay away from – a “NO” list – and foods to favor – a “YES” list – that make up The Sweet Sleep Diet. This week we’re looking at all the foods that are best to avoid before bedtime:

The “NO” List for Sweet Sleep:

-Alcohol: A cocktail before bed may help you to fall asleep more quickly, but it disrupts sleep later in the night. Alcohol interrupts our REM sleep – and REM sleep is important for concentration, memory, and motor skills.

-Broccoli: While broccoli, Brussels sprouts and cauliflower are all super healthy and high in fiber, the fiber content also makes these veggies harder to digest. They also contain an indigestible sugar that causes gas. While our digestive system is working overtime, it’s difficult for us to sleep soundly.

-Candy: When we have candy or sugary treats late at night, our blood sugar fluctuations, the spikes and falls that come with sugar consumption, make it difficult for us to stay asleep. Also, dark chocolate is indeed heart healthy, but best not to eat it before bed. It contains some caffeine – about the same amount as hot chocolate or tea.

-Celery, cucumber, watermelon: Foods with a high water content act as a natural diuretic. When we have to get up in the night to go to the bathroom we have a harder time sleeping.

-Chili: Beans can be difficult to digest, and can cause gas, making it difficult for us to sleep well.

-Pizza: Foods that are high in fat, like pizza and fried foods, take longer to digest. This can cause discomfort that interferes with our sleep cycle.

-Red meat: Meats that are high in protein and fat are slow to digest. If you choose to eat red meat, have it for lunch rather than for dinner. A body that is busy digesting can’t settle into slumber.

-Soda: Caffeine is a stimulant. We know that caffeine is present in cola drinks, but check the labels on your other sodas as well. Caffeine is often added to root beer, orange soda, and lemon-lime soda.

-Sub sandwiches: These big sandwiches are a meal, not a snack. It is best to leave at least 3 hours between dinner and bedtime to properly digest so that you’re not uncomfortable with a full stomach.

-Tacos: Spicy foods, or any foods that have a spicy or hot sauce on them, can cause heartburn, which leads to restlessness when you’re trying to get to sleep.

-Tomatoes: Tomatoes are high in tyramine. Tyramine is an amino acid that triggers norepinephrine. Norepinephrine is a stimulant that boosts brain activity and delays sleep.

Next week I’ll post foods on the “YES” list – meanwhile, take a look at our new YouTube video for more info!

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11 Jan

Golden Globe Winners 2015

BEST MOTION PICTURE – DRAMA

Boyhood
IFC Productions and Detour Filmproduction; IFC Films


BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A MOTION PICTURE – DRAMA

Eddie Redmayne
The Theory Of Everything

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A MOTION PICTURE – DRAMA

Julianne Moore
Still Alice

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A SUPPORTING ROLE IN A MOTION PICTURE 

J.K. Simmons
Whiplash

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A SUPPORTING ROLE IN A MOTION PICTURE

Patricia Arquette
Boyhood

BEST DIRECTOR – MOTION PICTURE

Richard Linklater
Boyhood

BEST MOTION PICTURE – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

The Grand Budapest Hotel
American Empirical Picture; Fox Searchlight Pictures

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A MOTION PICTURE – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

Michael Keaton
Birdman

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A MOTION PICTURE – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

Amy Adams
Big Eyes

BEST TELEVISION SERIES – DRAMA

The Affair
Showtime
Showtime Presents, Sheleg, Higlewater

BEST TELEVISION SERIES – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

Transparent
Amazon
Amazon Studios Instant Video

BEST MINISERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION
Fargo
FX
FX Productions & MGM Television


BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A MINI-SERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION

Maggie Gyllenhaal
The Honorable Woman

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A TELEVISION SERIES – DRAMA

Kevin Spacey
House Of Cards

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A TELEVISION SERIES – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

Jeffrey Tambor
Transparent

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A TELEVISION SERIES – DRAMA

Ruth Wilson
The Affair

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A SUPPORTING ROLE IN A SERIES, MINISERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION

Matt Bomer
The Normal Heart

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A SUPPORTING ROLE IN A SERIES, MINISERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION

Joanne Froggatt
Downton Abbey

BEST MINISERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION

Fargo
FX, FX Productions & MGM Television

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTOR IN A MINI-SERIES OR MOTION PICTURE MADE FOR TELEVISION

Billy Bob Thornton
Fargo

BEST PERFORMANCE BY AN ACTRESS IN A TELEVISION SERIES – COMEDY OR MUSICAL

Gina Rodriguez
Jane The Virgin

BEST ORIGINAL SCORE – MOTION PICTURE

Johann Johannsson
The Theory Of Everything

BEST ORIGINAL SONG – MOTION PICTURE

“Glory”
Selma

BEST ANIMATED FEATURE FILM

How To Train Your Dragon 2

DreamWorks Animation LLC; Twentieth Century Fox

BEST SCREENPLAY – MOTION PICTURE

Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu, Nicolas Giacobone, Alexander Dinelaris, Armando Bo
Birdman

BEST FOREIGN LANGUAGE FILM

Leviathan (Russia)
(Левиафан) Non-Stop Production, Ministry of Culture of the Russian Federation of the Cinema Funds, RuArts Foundation; Sony Pictures Classics

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09 Jan

BAFTA Award Nominees 2015

Full list of this year’s BAFTA Award Nominees:

BEST FILM

BIRDMAN Alejandro G. Irritu, John Lesher, James W. Skotchdopole
BOYHOOD Richard Linklater, Cathleen Sutherland
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Wes Anderson, Scott Rudin, Steven Rales, Jeremy Dawson
THE IMITATION GAME Nora Grossman, Ido Ostrowsky, Teddy Schwarzman
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Tim Bevan, Eric Fellner, Lisa Bruce, Anthony McCarten

OUTSTANDING BRITISH FILM
’71 Yann Demange, Angus Lamont, Robin Gutch, Gregory Burke
THE IMITATION GAME Morten Tyldum, Nora Grossman, Ido Ostrowsky, Teddy Schwarzman, Graham Moore
PADDINGTON Paul King, David Heyman
PRIDE Matthew Warchus, David Livingstone, Stephen Beresford
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING James Marsh, Tim Bevan, Eric Fellner, Lisa Bruce, Anthony McCarten
UNDER THE SKIN Jonathan Glazer, James Wilson, Nick Wechsler, Walter Campbell

OUTSTANDING DEBUT BY A BRITISH WRITER, DIRECTOR OR PRODUCER
ELAINE CONSTANTINE (Writer/Director) Northern Soul
GREGORY BURKE (Writer), YANN DEMANGE (Director) ’71
HONG KHAOU (Writer/Director) Lilting
PAUL KATIS (Director/Producer), ANDREW DE LOTBINIRE (Producer) Kajaki: The True Story
STEPHEN BERESFORD (Writer), DAVID LIVINGSTONE (Producer) Pride

FILM NOT IN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE
IDA Pawel Pawlikowski, Eric Abraham, Piotr Dzieciol, Ewa Puszczynska
LEVIATHAN Andrey Zvyagintsev, Alexander Rodnyansky, Sergey Melkumov
THE LUNCHBOX Ritesh Batra, Arun Rangachari, Anurag Kashyap, Guneet Monga
TRASH Stephen Daldry, Tim Bevan, Eric Fellner, Kris Thykier
TWO DAYS, ONE NIGHT Jean-Pierre Dardenne, Luc Dardenne, Denis Freyd

DOCUMENTARY
20 FEET FROM STARDOM Morgan Neville, Caitrin Rogers, Gil Friesen
20,000 DAYS ON EARTH Iain Forsyth, Jane Pollard
CITIZENFOUR Laura Poitras
FINDING VIVIAN MAIER John Maloof, Charlie Siskel
VIRUNGA Orlando von Einsiedel, Joanna Natasegara

ANIMATED FILM
BIG HERO 6 Don Hall, Chris Williams
THE BOXTROLLS Anthony Stacchi, Graham Annable
THE LEGO MOVIE Phil Lord, Christopher Miller

DIRECTOR
BIRDMAN Alejandro G. Irritu
BOYHOOD Richard Linklater
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Wes Anderson
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING James Marsh
WHIPLASH Damien Chazelle

ORIGINAL SCREENPLAY
BIRDMAN Alejandro G. Irritu, Nicols Giacobone, Alexander Dinelaris Jr, Armando Bo
BOYHOOD Richard Linklater
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Wes Anderson
NIGHTCRAWLER Dan Gilroy
WHIPLASH Damien Chazelle

ADAPTED SCREENPLAY
AMERICAN SNIPER Jason Hall
GONE GIRL Gillian Flynn
THE IMITATION GAME Graham Moore
PADDINGTON Paul King
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Anthony McCarten

LEADING ACTOR
BENEDICT CUMBERBATCH The Imitation Game
EDDIE REDMAYNE The Theory of Everything
JAKE GYLLENHAAL Nightcrawler
MICHAEL KEATON Birdman
RALPH FIENNES The Grand Budapest Hotel

LEADING ACTRESS
AMY ADAMS Big Eyes
FELICITY JONES The Theory of Everything
JULIANNE MOORE Still Alice
REESE WITHERSPOON Wild
ROSAMUND PIKE Gone Girl

SUPPORTING ACTOR
EDWARD NORTON Birdman
ETHAN HAWKE Boyhood
J.K. SIMMONS Whiplash
MARK RUFFALO Foxcatcher
STEVE CARELL Foxcatcher

SUPPORTING ACTRESS
EMMA STONE Birdman
IMELDA STAUNTON Pride
KEIRA KNIGHTLEY The Imitation Game
PATRICIA ARQUETTE Boyhood
RENE RUSSO Nightcrawler

ORIGINAL MUSIC
BIRDMAN Antonio Sanchez
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Alexandre Desplat
INTERSTELLAR Hans Zimmer
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Jhann Jhannsson
UNDER THE SKIN Mica Levi

CINEMATOGRAPHY
BIRDMAN Emmanuel Lubezki
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Robert Yeoman
IDA Lukasz Zal, Ryzsard Lenczewski
INTERSTELLAR Hoyte van Hoytema
MR. TURNER Dick Pope

EDITING
Due to a tie in voting in this category, there are six nominations
BIRDMAN Douglas Crise, Stephen Mirrione
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Barney Pilling
THE IMITATION GAME William Goldenberg
NIGHTCRAWLER John Gilroy
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Jinx Godfrey
WHIPLASH Tom Cross

PRODUCTION DESIGN
BIG EYES Rick Heinrichs, Shane Vieau
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Adam Stockhausen, Anna Pinnock
THE IMITATION GAME Maria Djurkovic, Tatiana MacDonald
INTERSTELLAR Nathan Crowley, Gary Fettis
MR. TURNER Suzie Davies, Charlotte Watts

COSTUME DESIGN
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Milena Canonero
THE IMITATION GAME Sammy Sheldon Differ
INTO THE WOODS Colleen Atwood
MR. TURNER Jacqueline Durran
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Steven Noble

MAKE UP & HAIR
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Frances Hannon
GUARDIANS OF THE GALAXY Elizabeth Yianni-Georgiou, David White
INTO THE WOODS Peter Swords King, J. Roy Helland
MR. TURNER Christine Blundell, Lesa Warrener
THE THEORY OF EVERYTHING Jan Sewell

SOUND
AMERICAN SNIPER Walt Martin, John Reitz, Gregg Rudloff, Alan Robert Murray, Bub Asman
BIRDMAN Thomas Varga, Martin Hernndez, Aaron Glascock, Jon Taylor, Frank A. Montao
THE GRAND BUDAPEST HOTEL Wayne Lemmer, Christopher Scarabosio, Pawel Wdowczak
THE IMITATION GAME John Midgley, Lee Walpole, Stuart Hilliker, Martin Jensen
WHIPLASH Thomas Curley, Ben Wilkins, Craig Mann

SPECIAL VISUAL EFFECTS
DAWN OF THE PLANET OF THE APES Joe Letteri, Dan Lemmon, Erik Winquist, Daniel Barrett
GUARDIANS OF THE GALAXY Stephane Ceretti, Paul Corbould, Jonathan Fawkner, Nicolas Aithadi
THE HOBBIT: THE BATTLE OF THE FIVE ARMIES Joe Letteri, Eric Saindon, David Clayton, R. Christopher White
INTERSTELLAR Paul Franklin, Scott Fisher, Andrew Lockley
X-MEN: DAYS OF FUTURE PAST Richard Stammers, Anders Langlands, Tim Crosbie, Cameron Waldbauer

BRITISH SHORT ANIMATION
THE BIGGER PICTURE Chris Hees, Daisy Jacobs, Jennifer Majka
MONKEY LOVE EXPERIMENTS Ainslie Henderson, Cam Fraser, Will Anderson
MY DAD Marcus Armitage

BRITISH SHORT FILM
BOOGALOO AND GRAHAM Brian J. Falconer, Michael Lennox, Ronan Blaney
EMOTIONAL FUSEBOX Michael Berliner, Rachel Tunnard
THE KRMN LINE Campbell Beaton, Dawn King, Tiernan Hanby, Oscar Sharp
SLAP Islay Bell-Webb, Michelangelo Fano, Nick Rowland
THREE BROTHERS Aleem Khan, Matthieu de Braconier, Stephanie Paeplow

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10 Nov

Formation of Personality

One of my favorite authors, Shakti Gawain, has a new book out: The Relationship Handbook: A Path to Consciousness, Healing and Growth.

This is an excerpt from her new book – amazing!

Formation of Personality

An excerpt from The Relationship Handbook

We develop our personalities in ways that are both universal and yet completely unique. We all experience the same process of development, while our individual circumstances and surroundings shape our particular makeup.

When we are born, we are vulnerable, impressionable, and completely reliant on those around us. We develop ways to have our needs met when we are hungry, for example, or uncomfortable, or just need love. Our experiences inform our behaviors; we discover a smile might bring joy and playful interaction or crying might bring comfort and immediate attention.

In that way, our parents, siblings, and those who care for us shape us. Our personalities continue to develop as we explore the best ways to have our needs met. We learn which behaviors will bring us love and acknowledgment and which will bring us negativity and even punishment. These aspects of our personalities evolve and take form as we grow. By adulthood, we have identified the ways that work best for us to operate in the world. As adults, we use similar approaches to our relationships, family, and work life to those we developed in childhood. We have fine-tuned ways of keeping ourselves safe and creating a sense of security in our lives.

A drawback to developing in this way is that we tend to overvalue certain aspects of ourselves. We might even come to think that our way of being in the world is the only way to be in the world. And when we overidentify with one aspect or side of ourselves, we automatically create an opposing side, what is often referred to as our shadow side.

We value one set of behaviors or certain parts of ourselves and then consider the other parts unacceptable, “not good,” or even a liability. We see our way as good and right, and we actually try to disown the other parts of us or deny they exist. Additionally, we form rules about how we should be, and how others should be, based on this value system. As a result, we criticize ourselves when we express or show our shadow parts, and we judge other people when they display these behaviors.

Most likely we have revealed some of these shadow aspects of ourselves at some point in our lives. If we received a negative reaction when we exhibited a certain part of ourselves, though, we probably learned to hide or suppress it. Eventually, we learned that showing that part of ourselves was not safe and would not get our needs met. For example, one aspect we often choose not to express is what we refer to as our “vulnerability.” Our vulnerability is the part within us that is connected to our sensitivity, our needs, and our emotions. If we have shown vulnerability in the past, we may have been criticized or ignored. In order to feel safe or in control, we might “stuff” these feelings and needs and act instead like we don’t have them.

Consider a sensitive child who is quick to show her feelings, from happiness to sadness, enthusiasm to anxiety. If she is told she is too sensitive, shouldn’t take things so seriously, or has no good reason to worry or be sad, she will learn to conceal or deny her emotions. Just seeing that her expressed feelings worry or anger those around her would be enough for her to become adept at suppressing them.

Because she has learned that a more detached approach to life pleases others, she comes to see that this way of relationship is the right and ideal way to be. She comes to view sensitivity and emotionality as a negative thing in herself — and in others. She criticizes herself when she expresses these parts of herself and judges other people who display them. Our unexpressed aspects — whether vulnerability, boldness, creativity, daring, sexuality, or others — don’t disappear. They continue to exist “in the shadows,” and like most hidden things, they come out one way or another, sooner or later.

What’s more, failing to recognize and find room for our shadow sides limits how we experience and participate in our lives. Our relationships will be affected if we think it’s wrong or weak to express our feelings. If we value intellect but not creativity or the arts, we may choose a career that becomes increasingly dissatisfying. Our well-being depends on our being whole and having access to all of who we are.

All the parts of ourselves — those that we consciously develop and our shadow sides — are our “selves.” We use the term “selves” to describe aspects within our personality; in Jungian psychology, the selves are called “subpersonalities.” Each of these selves has its own perspective on our lives, its own ideas, and even its own ways of remembering specific events.

It is important to note here that we are in no way talking about multiple personality disorder. Multiple personality disorder is a psychiatric dissociative disorder. Here, we are bringing to the light a simple process that is naturally occurring within us all the time. It is as simple as sensing two different parts of us when we go out to eat — part of us wants to eat healthy and another part wants to order off the dessert menu. It is the conflict we feel when making choices, ranging from major life changes to simple daily decisions. This work was inspired by and is most similar to Jung’s work with the shadow and discovering the unconscious.

I was first introduced to working with these aspects by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone. The basic idea of their work, which they call the Psychology of Selves, is that we have within us the potential for every energy or aspect of personality that exists, and each of us develops the aspects that work best in our lives to get our needs met, and we minimize or disregard the aspects that do not.

I believe that our work in this lifetime is to create awareness of all the parts of ourselves. Each part has a purpose, has information for us, and is actually necessary for us to achieve the balance and wholeness we are searching for. Ultimately, coming to embrace all our selves is the path to enjoying more balance in our relationships as well.

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Shakti Gawain is the author of The Relationship Handbook. A bestselling author and pioneer in the field of personal growth and consciousness, she cofounded New World Library with Marc Allen in 1977. Visit her online at http://www.shaktigawain.com.

Excerpted from the book The Relationship Handbook © 2014 by Shakti Gawain and Gina Vucci. Published with permission of New World Library http://www.newworldlibrary.com

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25 Aug

2014 Emmy Winners

Outstanding Drama Series
Breaking Bad
AMC • Sony Pictures Television

Outstanding Comedy Series
Modern Family
ABC • Picador Productions and Steven Levitan Productions in association with 20th Century Fox Television

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Drama Series
Bryan Cranston as Walter White
Breaking Bad • AMC • Sony Pictures Television

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Drama Series
Julianna Margulies as Alicia Florrick
The Good Wife • CBS • Eye Productions in association with Scott Free Productions and King Size Productions

Outstanding Writing For A Drama Series
Breaking Bad • Ozymandias • AMC • Sony Pictures Television
Moira Walley-Beckett, Written by

Outstanding Supporting Actress In A Drama Series
Anna Gunn as Skyler White
Breaking Bad • AMC • Sony Pictures Television

Outstanding Directing For A Drama Series
True Detective • Who Goes There • HBO • HBO Entertainment in association with Neon Black, Anonymous Content, Parliament of Owls and Passenger
Cary Joji Fukunaga, Directed by

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Drama Series
Aaron Paul as Jesse Pinkman
Breaking Bad • AMC • Sony Pictures Television

Outstanding Variety Series
The Colbert Report
Comedy Central • Hello Doggie, Inc. with Busboy Productions and Spartina Productions

Outstanding Directing For A Variety Special
67th Annual Tony Awards
CBS • White Cherry Entertainment
Glenn Weiss, Directed by

Outstanding Writing For A Variety Special
Sarah Silverman: We Are Miracles • HBO • HBO Entertainment in association with Funny or Die and Black Gold Films
Sarah Silverman, Written by

Outstanding Television Movie
The Normal Heart
HBO • HBO Films in association with Plan B Entertainment, Blumhouse and Ryan Murphy Productions

Outstanding Miniseries
Fargo
FX Networks • MGM and FX Productions

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Miniseries Or A Movie
Jessica Lange as Fiona Goode
American Horror Story: Coven • FX Networks • 20th Century Fox Television

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Miniseries Or A Movie
Benedict Cumberbatch as Sherlock Holmes
Sherlock: His Last Vow (Masterpiece) • PBS • Hartswood West for BBC/Cymru Wales in co-production with Masterpiece

Outstanding Directing For A Miniseries, Movie Or A Dramatic Special
Fargo • Buridan’s Ass
FX Networks • MGM and FX Productions
Colin Bucksey, Directed by

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Miniseries Or A Movie
Martin Freeman as John Watson
Sherlock: His Last Vow (Masterpiece) • PBS • Hartswood West for BBC/Cymru Wales in co-production with Masterpiece

Outstanding Supporting Actress In A Miniseries Or A Movie
Kathy Bates as Madame Delphine LaLaurie
American Horror Story: Coven • FX Networks • 20th Century Fox Television

Outstanding Writing For A Miniseries, Movie Or A Dramatic Special
Sherlock: His Last Vow (Masterpiece)
PBS • Hartswood West for BBC/Cymru Wales in co-production with Masterpiece
Steven Moffat, Written by

Outstanding Reality-Competition Program
The Amazing Race
CBS • WorldRace Productions, Inc.
Bertram van Munster, Executive Producer Elise Doganieri, Executive Producer
Jerry Bruckheimer, Executive Producer Jonathan Littman, Executive Producer Mark Vertullo, Executive Producer
Dan Coffie, Co-Executive Producer Giselle Parets, Co-Executive Producer Matt Schmidt, Co-Executive Producer Patrick Cariaga, Co-Executive Producer Phil Keoghan, Co-Executive Producer Michael Norton, Supervising Producer Darren Bunkley, Supervising Producer Neil Jahss, Supervising Producer Micheal DiMaggio, Supervising Producer Chad Baron, Senior Producer
Vanessa Abugho Ballesteros, Senior Producer

Outstanding Lead Actress In A Comedy Series
Julia Louis-Dreyfus as Vice President Selina Meyer
Veep • HBO • HBO Entertainment in association with Dundee Productions

Outstanding Lead Actor In A Comedy Series
Jim Parsons as Sheldon Cooper
The Big Bang Theory • CBS • Chuck Lorre Productions, Inc. in association with Warner Bros. Television

Outstanding Directing For A Comedy Series
Modern Family • Vegas
ABC • Picador Productions and Steven Levitan Productions in association with 20th Century Fox Television
Gail Mancuso, Directed by

Outstanding Supporting Actress In A Comedy Series
Allison Janney as Bonnie
Mom • CBS • Chuck Lorre Productions, Inc. in association with Warner Bros. Television

Outstanding Writing For A Comedy Series
Louie • So Did The Fat Lady
FX Networks • Pig Newton, Inc. and FX Productions
Louis C.K., Written by

Outstanding Supporting Actor In A Comedy Series
Ty Burrell, Modern Family

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30 Jul

What Salsa Has Taught Me

Summer 2014 will go down in my personal history as the “Summer of Salsa!” I’ve spent the past 7 weeks going from 0-60 in learning this particular style of Latin dance, and I’ve loved every minute of it!

This all came about because of the Oxnard Salsa Festival, held every year near my hometown. As a part of the festivities, they hold a “Dancing With the Community Stars” Salsa competition. Community “stars” are matched up with seasoned professional dancers and then the pair comes up with a dance routine to perform at the Festival. All of this helps local charities raise money as the charities campaign for their stars through the various events. Of course, when I found out about this, I loved the idea, and was thrilled to take up the challenge! So I’m dancing for my favorite non-profit organization, Big Brothers Big Sisters of Ventura County.

My partner, Lovie Hernandez, has years of experience and his own studio in Santa Paula. Before meeting him I had never danced a step of Salsa in my life – wouldn’t even know where to start. The two of us hit it off quickly as we were faced with the same goal: get this girl dancing and win the contest!

With Lovie’s background and teaching experience, I knew that, despite my awkwardness, that somehow he’d get me to looking at least a little bit like a Salsa dancer. But what I didn’t know is that Lovie would become my own personal Yoda, sharing with me the wisdom of the Salsa philosophy. While I learned to dance, what surprised me is how much I learned about life through this whole experience. Over the course of our time together I got some great take-aways and I want to share them with you.

– Mix it up. Salsa dancing is actually a mix of different styles from different countries. That’s how it got its name, after the famous spicy salsa dip that’s made out of a mix of different ingredients. Mixing things up to create something new is a good thing! The combination as a whole can be absolutely amazing.  Life is like that. We don’t always have to stick to a formula, we can try things out to see what we like, what works.  Whether it’s adding new elements to a recipe or a dance or anything, we can always be unique in our self-expression.

– Dancing is communication without words. Lovie says this over and over again. And it’s absolutely true! The body is an instrument, and partners can tell when either one is nervous, unsure, tired, or distracted. You don’t have to say a word, it comes through in the way you move. Relationships are like that, too. We learn to read our partners such that a sigh or the twitch of an eyebrow speaks volumes. We go through a dance with everyone we meet, but those who really know us can sense when something is amiss. The body just doesn’t lie.

– Take your time.  Every one of us is going to have our own pace. We can’t compare ourselves to other dancers, or other people. We need to be patient, and gentle with ourselves. Just do your best and trust in the process. When we keep going, we eventually get there. There are many paths to any destination. Once I took Lovie’s advice and was easier on myself, I could enjoy the dance so much more.

– Be in the moment.  Choreography is like following a map. You know where you’re going, but you can’t focus on that end goal, you have to be present for every step along the way. If you race ahead, or have your head in the next move rather than the current move, the whole thing is going to fall apart. Not that you can’t recover! A good partner, like Lovie, can help you get back on track. We don’t even realize how much we’re missing out on in life when we’re not paying attention. Be mindful, pay attention, and you’ll be surprised at what you can do.

– Trust your partner. I knew I could trust Lovie from the first moment I met him. We were posing for a photo, and he asked me if we should do a dip. I gave an enthusiastic “yes!” and he proceeded to turn me heels over head.  Literally. What fun! I knew that Lovie was strong, and would not let me fall no matter what.  When Lovie says “look at me” during our dance, it’s a reminder to me to “spot” so that I don’t get dizzy. At the same time, it’s a reminder to me that we’re a team in this thing, and he’s got my back.

– Keep your eye on the prize. From the very beginning, our motto has been that we are “in it to win it!” And it’s definitely been our goal to win this competition and make as big a splash as possible for Big Brothers Big Sisters.  I hope we do win, but I know that all of the other dancers have also put in their work and want to win as well!  Now that I’ve been through all this training, spent so much time, sweat, and energy working on this dance, I realize that I already have gained much more than any win. The real prize is the newfound knowledge and skills that I now have. The real prize is the wonderful people I’ve met who share my enthusiasm. The real prize is my terrific new friend, a dancer and philosopher who has taught me so much.

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13 Jul

Every Day Angels

Growing up I used to wear a peace sign necklace. Then it was a smiley-face button. If we had a symbol for the 80’s, it must have been the dollar sign. Now in the 90’s, the motif of the moment is the angel.

Angels are everywhere: coffee mugs, calendars, greeting cards and garden tools. Little golden angel pins are perched on lapels and shoulders proudly heralding their popularity. There are countless books written about them, a hit TV show and several big budget movies with the angel theme.

Who can resist these beautiful creatures who represent only goodness and light? I started to think about my own angel collection. I’ve got an angel candle stick holder that is precious to me because it was a birthday gift from a good friend. I’ve got a pin that all of our community group members each received for being “such angels.” Although these angels things seem to be all around us like some sort of retail blitz, they serve as a reminder of the real angels in our lives every day.

The angel mom who stays up all night cutting out colorful shapes for the kindergarten art project. The angel friend who drives carpool so you can sleep in when you’ve got a cold. The angel neighbor who feeds your cat while you’re away. The angel mailman who comes to the door with a package on a rainy day. The angel child who hugs you and warms your heart when you didn’t even realize it needed warming.

Albert Einstein said: “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is.” Are we going to argue with Albert Einstein? These little angels in the stores are just showing us to open our eyes and recognize the angels all around us all the time. And maybe they’re also telling us to follow their example and be an angel as well. Their quiet message lifts our spirits and renews our faith.

There is a significant meaning behind the peace sign that seemed to get forgotten as the symbol became so saturated in our culture. Angels are too important and too pervasive to have their meaning get lost. Although angels have always been around us, now we are noticing them more, and honoring their presence in our lives.

So, as you sip your tea from your angel mug, think of all the angels that breeze through your day. Your joyful thoughts will be carried on angels wings to help make this world a better place for angels everywhere.

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29 Jun

Levity About Gravity

We’re all susceptible to the laws of nature. As we get older, those laws may work against us as much as for us. Recently I discovered how mysterious the law of gravity can be. I went to bed with a headache and woke up with a stomach ache.

Entire corporations depend on the law of gravity to keep their business afloat, so to speak. Cosmetic companies prey on our fear of visible aging by enticing us with their scientific formulas that make these fancy creams and lotions sound so necessary to our health and well-being. They think they can fool us by putting a wrinkle-free young model in their ads. Although we know she’s probably not old enough to babysit our kids, we buy the products anyway, just in case.

Alpha hydroxy, tretinoin, ethacyn, collagen, vitamin E… every day there’s something new on the market to help us fight the battle against the law of gravity. There’s no price we won’t pay to keep those wrinkles away. But why does this gravity war have to be fought in pricey department stores? Where are our comrades when we need help battling the credit card companies? It’s bad enough that I justify the expense by putting it in my family budget under “household maintenance.”

To further complicate the issue, the law of gravity doesn’t stop at the face. We must also be armed with neck cream, breast cream, body cream, and thigh cream. Those super-serious about the cause invest in anti-cellulite massagers and soaps. What’s the point of having a beautifully toned face if you turn around to reveal a sagging butt?

So then you have to get the exercise bike and stair master thing, with every intention of actually using them. Another industry now thrives on the threat of the law of gravity. Add to that list Victoria Principal and a slew of infomercial people. Extremists go the plastic surgery route, contributing to the population of overpaid doctors.

Should we give up on all this foolishness? We can’t. It’s gone too far. The American economy would collapse. Since the day Newton’s apple fell to the ground we’ve set ourselves on this course. Our only real hope is to make gravity our friend.

With our feet firmly planted on the ground, we must recognize that the law of gravity is not so bad after all. It’s actually the law of cause and effect that has us in a tizzy! Either way, we’ll just slather on the moisturizers and smile a sympathetic, wise smile when that young model in the ad develops her first wrinkle. Loyal cosmetics customers are converted every day.

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28 May

Getting Your Beauty Sleep, Sleeping Beauty?

The movie “Maleficent” comes out Friday. It is the story of Sleeping Beauty.  This made me think, can sleep really make you more beautiful?

The notion that a good night’s sleep enhances beauty has long been accepted, but there is also scientific evidence that “beauty sleep” is more than just an expression.

The study, from Sweden’s Karolinska Institute, was published in BMJ, a British medical journal. It set out to explore the effect that sleep has on how one is perceived, specifically on others’ judgments of an individual’s attractiveness and health.

A group of 23 participants, all between the ages of 18 and 31, were photographed twice: once after getting a full eight hours of sleep, and then again when limited to five hours of sleep followed by 31 hours of sleep deprivation. The researchers then asked a group of 65 untrained observers to rate the photographs based on healthiness, attractiveness and overall tiredness. The observers were unaware which of the two photographs in each pair was taken after a normal night’s sleep and which was not.

“Our findings show that sleep-deprived people appear less healthy, less attractive and more tired compared with when they are well rested,” wrote the researchers. “This suggests that humans are sensitive to sleep-related facial cues.”

While the long-term effects of poor sleep on overall health have been widely researched, this is the first study to provide evidence that in the short term, sleep deprivation does in fact show up as a discernible change in facial appearance.

Here are some tips for princes and princesses alike to get the sleep they need to let their beauty shine through:

TIPS to getting good beauty sleep from Princesses who KNOW:

1-   Set aside those glass slippers. Wear socks to bed.  Might not be pretty, but warm feet help you to settle in and fall asleep faster.  Feet also often feel cold before the rest of the body – so wearing socks reduces night awakenings.

2-   Keep a journal.  Before you lay down in bed, write down any thoughts you have. This help to stop your mind from racing – you won’t be worried about forgetting something, and your mind will be able to get settled more quickly. As one princess sings: “Let it go, let it go!”

3-   The Princess and the Pea. Is your mattress lumpy or uncomfortable? Get a new one!

4-   The bed should be for your royal sleep – not for work! Keep electronics out of the bedroom, and the bed. Look at the beds of princesses compared to the ones we sleep in today. They are draped beautifully, inviting sleep – where today ours are covered with smartphones and laptops!

5-   Keep a royal routine. In bed by 10 pm preferable – but the same time every night, and up at the same time every morning, preferably 6 am. Like Pocohontas, connected with and in harmony with nature’s time clock, the sun.

6-   Keep a bedtime routine or ritual – could include breathing, tapping, aromatherapy or a warm bath. Princesses deserve just a little bit of pampering. Find something that helps you to relax, and repeat it each night to prepare yourself for slumber.

7-   Wear an eye mask to block out the light. Keep the room dark, cool, quiet and comfortable.

More sleep tips at BetterSleep.org

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21 May

Nighttime Sleep = No NapPods Necessary!

Arianna Huffington is my hero. Really. And I’m not just saying this because I am one of her bloggers. Arianna’s new book “Thrive” is fabulous. She makes some great points from which we can all learn.

As an author myself, having written 7 lifestyle books to date, and as the spokesperson for the Better Sleep Council, I just want to open up a conversation about one particular subject: the nap pod. Arianna says that she has several of them in her offices for her employees. Google also has them, too.

These nap pods have been getting a lot of press lately. They are said to be the next, new, big thing. Some companies even have whole rooms filled with them. Employees are allowed, even encouraged, to take breaks throughout their workdays to utilize these pods and take a nap. How much does each one cost? Anywhere from $12,000 to $25,000 EACH! But unless employees are working swing shifts, or more than 8-hour days, I don’t think that nap pods, or nap rooms, are such a good idea.

What’s so bad about this, you might think? What’s wrong with a nap at work in the middle of the day?

Whether you are napping at your desk, in the back seat of your car, or in a luxury “nap pod” this is time you could be using more productively. Sleeping around, that is not in your bed, is just bad on so many levels – so let me just break all this it down for you – and I have a feeling that you will agree with me.

Why are people feeling like they need a nap at work? Because they are not getting either the quality of sleep, or the quantity of sleep, that they need at night. Simple science. When you get the sleep you need at night – you don’t NEED a nap during the day.

If you take a nap during the day, you are more likely to stay up later at night. So, you end up NOT getting that nighttime sleep you need, yet again. You feel a little groggy after your nap, have a coffee to perk up, and miss more sleep at night. And you can follow the dots to see what happens – this ends up becoming a habit, and gradually, eventually, your whole schedule is going to be out of whack. It’s not hard to imagine thinking: “oh, I can stay up a half an hour later and make it up at naptime at work.” Sleep doesn’t work that way, and neither should you.

Let’s look at the cost involved. It has been said that a lack of sleep costs businesses $63 BILLION dollars a year. These nap pods aren’t helping, they’re actually making matters worse by creating more of a loss of sleep at NIGHT, when it really matters. Plus, depending on how many employees a company has, and how many nap-pods a company decide to provide – you can do the math as to how much work time companies lose from each employee so they can take their nap – that’s all going to add up to lots of dollars.

Instead – isn’t it better, doesn’t it make more sense, to sleep at night, and be active during the day? Are we asking ourselves this very question – “How well do you sleep at night?”

Doesn’t it sound better to sleep at home, in your own bed, on your own comfy mattress, than napping in some “pod?” We are not robots! You can’t literally plug us in when our batteries are running low. We are human beings, and we are wired to sleep at night, when it is dark, and to be active during the day when the sun is out. That is the way nature intended it to be! And I have information – Ancient Wisdom, thousands of years old – that proves it!

Interestingly, most of what we know about sleep we’ve learned in the past 25 years. Relatively – this is “new” wisdom! And most sleep disorders have developed in recent history as well. During pre-electric times adults slept 9-10 hours a night, and kept their sleep schedules in line with both the seasons and the sun. But now experts say that one of the biggest distractions to sleep is our 24/7 access to the internet.

And now, many people both start and end their day in bed with their smart phone. Before their feet hit the floor they are checking their emails and social media pages. How many times have you checked your computer or smartphone today?

We’ve gotten ourselves into bad habits – and the first step is recognizing this! So let’s take a step back, let’s recognize some ancient wisdom, from the 5,000 year old Science of Life that is called “AYURVEDA.”

Ayurveda is the original form of medicine. Out of Ayurveda came Greek medicine, which then led to our current form of medicine known as allopathic medicine. And although Ayurveda has been continually practiced in India and Asia for all these thousands of years, it has recently become more known and practiced here in the west because of the popularity of yoga and meditation. Ayurveda is a sister-science with these two popular practices.

Ayurveda teaches us the nature of everything on the planet. And it teaches us how to live in harmony with nature. When we apply the principles of Ayurveda to our lives we can be our healthiest and happiest. The universe supports us. It’s like going with the flow. Everything is easier. We’re in the groove. We’re in sync.

Ayurveda tells us that just like there are seasons in the year, there are times during the day when the energy around us supports us in our efforts.

Let’s start at the beginning of the day:

6:00 am – 10:00 am – KAPHA time

When the sun rises, it is a signal to start our day, wake up, meditate, exercise, shower, and eat. Kapha time is gentle, slow and heavy, it allows us time to gear up for the day, to prepare for the day ahead.

10:00 am – 2:00 pm – PITTA time

During this time, our productivity is high and our intellect is strong. This is the time of day when we get our best, and our most, work done. It is also time when our digestion is the strongest during the day, so it is a good idea to have lunch, and have that be the largest meal of the day.

2:00 pm – 6:00 pm – VATA time

During these hours, our creativity is in full bloom. This is a great time to brainstorm, to problem solve, and to think up those big ideas that move us forward. Be a visionary, make plans, allow your creativity to have full expression.

6:00 pm – 10:00 pm – KAPHA time

By 6:00 pm, ideally, we will have completed our work day. This is time to have our second meditation, and then have dinner. Try to finish your meal by 7 pm. After dinner it’s a good idea to take a walk to aid digestion, and then relax. Read, visit with friends, listen to music. It’s even fine to use the computer or watch TV, with the caveat that all technology should be off by 9 pm, or one hour prior to bedtime. Use that last hour for a pre-bedtime ritual – maybe a warm bath, getting in your pajamas, reading a book.

If you don’t get to bed by 10 pm, if you’re on the computer or involved in a TV show and tempted to stay up later – you’ll get that “second wind” and it will be more difficult to fall asleep. There is a definite shift in energy at 10 pm.

10:00 pm – 2:00 am – PITTA time

By 10:00 pm be in bed, lights out and ready for sleep. The room should be dark, cool, quiet, and comfortable. Make sure your mattress is in good shape. Too often we splurge on things like big screen TVs and skimp on necessities like a mattress. But a mattress is an investment in our health and wellness. You can’t put a price on that. If you’re getting back aches, or you’ve had your mattress for more than 5-7 years, chances are it’s time for a new one.

During the hours of 10 pm and 2 am this is the time our bodies are getting the rest that they need to restore. We don’t need to do anything but snooze. Nature is at work, active in healing the body. We can rest easy knowing this.

2:00 am – 6:00 am – VATA time

These four hours are when we have our most vivid dreams. This is our mind at work, our subconscious and unconscious working out problems that we might not have been able to solve during our waking hours in the day. We definitely want to be asleep during this time to get these benefits.

And then at 6:00 am we wake up, and begin our day again, fresh and new!

This is the Ayurvedic lifestyle, and THIS is how we need to live our lives. When we do this we have tons of energy, we feel good, look good, are productive, healthy, we have better relationships, and all that comes along with it!

This is 5,000 year old SCIENCE. And some of you will say it’s just common sense. And it is! But when will be learn it? We’ve gotten so far away from it with all of our 24/7 technology – and we think we’re doing ourselves a favor with these nap pods but we’re very likely making matters worse.

So, I say – yes, continue with the meditation room and the yoga room for employees. There is definitely a place for these in the workforce. But I’d re-think the whole nap pod thing. I want to encourage people to live in harmony with nature, to get that glorious, restorative, necessary sleep at night, when it is dark – and to be active and productive during the daylight hours. This helps to keep us in balance, to be our happiest and healthiest.

I know this isn’t possible for everyone. Some people work night shifts, or double shifts. And for them the nap pod may be just the thing to help “re-charge” their batteries. But for the rest of us, let’s do the best we can, using the ancient wisdom that has been keeping the planet on course all these thousands of years. Live an ayurvedic lifestyle and experience true balance and bliss.

For more information about getting a good night’s sleep visit BetterSleep.org

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